I drive 62 miles each way and yes, it definitely affects/impacts your horse keeping/farm up-keep and riding goals. Especially in the winter when I leave in the dark and get home in the dark. It sucks being out repairing fences after dark; or putting round bales out after dark. Yes, of course, it can be done, but it can be a drag. Much less of a bother when it’s warmer and the days are longer
Because both me and my husband are away from home long hours during the week, I don’t keep anyone in a stall unless there’s inclement weather - snow & ice - or an injury. In the winter, I do sometimes keep them in over night to be warm and dry. But basically I feed and turn out which means I only have to do stalls a couple of times a week. I never “strip” stalls any more; just take out and add fresh shavings. We put out round bales when there is no grass and I only keep enough square bales on hand to have have to go in the stalls intermittently or on the horse trailer and at a horse show.
You find ways to streamline things so you maximize your barn time. I feed the horses before work and after I come home. I ride in the evenings during the week as I leave home at 6am since my commute takes anywhere from 1.4 to 2 hrs, each way.
We live South of Atlanta. Sure, we could have found property a bit closer, but especially on the Northside we probably could have only affored a fraction of the 17.5 acres we have South of the City. Unfortunately as a paralegal/executive assistant, to work locally, I would literally have to take a $35k pay cut, which given that I have a horse habit, I won’t do. I work to live and not the other way around. My salary helps me afford to do the things I enjoy. We live in a small town and we are 10 mins outside of it; not much traffic. I love it there and I LOATHE going back into Atlanta because the traffic is never ending. So there are trade offs.
I spend a small fortune each month on Audible which at least makes my commute into Story Time. DEFINITELY makes the long commute much more tolerable. Even with XM/Sirius radio and a huge song/CD collection, there’s only so much of that I can tolerate for long.
But back to the farm. Consequently because me and my husband spend so much time off the farm with work, and also having a marriage, a daughter, and aging parents. There is always something that needs to be fixed, improved upon, mowed, cleaned, painted, etc… Unfortunately, my husband is not a handy kind of guy who enjoys just fixing and improving things which means that more often than not, I am management and labor. Meaning I’m the impetus for a project and have to be involved in said project until it is completed. For a city boy, my husband has accomodated pretty well, but having a farm does mean that a lot of weekends there’s working all week at the job then working at least all day, one day of the weekend, on farm stuff. There are certainly worse ways to spend your time and money, but be sure you love it before you go out and buy one. They’re wonderful in many ways but in general, they are a time sucking money pit. We have 4 horses (3 mine; 1 daughter’s; 5 minis (3 horses; 2 donks); and 3 Shetland sheep wethers, plus 10 dogs and a whole herd of cats. Our place has also become something of an Island of Misfit Toys.
Having said all that, I always wish I had more time there. To get all the things done that need doing (and more money of course for all of that); more time to ride; more time to just sit and enjoy it. I do lower level 3 Day Eventing and still manage to go to several schooling shows and the occasional horse trial a year and do pretty well. But you do have to be pretty industrious and militant about prioritizing; that and letting go of being a neat freak.
ETA: To give a little more perspective, full board in my area costs $800+/- a month, for a little more than half of that each month, I able to keep what I have at home. I call it in lieu of my fancy gym membership.