My cat does that too!
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The post used to say that they decided that owning a horse was not for them and they have contacted the seller and they seller is taking the horse back (and keeping the money already paid) and that the OP feels that COTH is not for them.
Which is sad because I think lots of great advice was given here. It would have been amazing if the OP found a way to come out of her shell and make new friends at the barn.
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That is very sad, sometimes life can be hard.
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It is VERY sad.
If I had to guess I am betting that no one at the barn is upset with the OP, they just know that she is new.
The barn is a great place to find new people to be part of your world, even just a small part of it.
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I agree, I hope OP can find some happiness.
I think OP was trolling us. I donât believe this to be a legitimate poster.
Edit: no, not true. FatDinah has been here since â06. Fat_Dinah since â21. The tone of the posts have changed - maybe she was hacked?
The last post was the original poster. FatDinah (as opposed to Fat_Dinah). I only noticed because the avatar icon changed colour (OP1 is pink, OP2 is green).
I think itâs most likely the same person with two different accounts logged in on two devices. Iâm not sure why but I know when the board changed servers the last time it changed my username from highflyer to highflyer_1 without my input so Iâm sure other people also had issues.
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The OP got a lot of supportive feedback from COTH during really stressful life events, including posts with straight up advice, that she took in good part back then. The reaction here seems uncharacteristic. My supposition is an emotional low point.
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Hey fatdinah. I dont know where youâre at but if you need horse time my Old Man horse has your name written all over him. Would give you some confidence building while you get your sea legs back.
It takes some getting used to, being cohesive in a boarding barn. Youâll get it if you keep trying. Dont give up, but dont be a mope either. Hike em up and go at it again.
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The two FatDinah accounts share an IP address, so itâs probably a little mix-up created when we switched platforms @Fat_Dinah @FatDinah if you could PM me and let me know what account and email address youâd like to keep, we can merge your two accounts.
Thanks!
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Whether or not the rider or the lunger is in the right really does depend on the barn, the contract, the ring rules, the discipline⊠No one barn is alike. Iâve been in barns where I have had LESSONS while there was someone lunging a horse. Iâve been in barns where lunging during âriding hoursâ was verboten and you could only lunge before 7 am or after 8 pm. It doesnât matter what we on COTH thinks - it matters what is in the barnâs rules and whether you(OP) want to preserve relationships at this barn or destroy them.
Raised in a very Pony-Club environment, I can say I would not lunge while a rider was present unless it was a very trustworthy horse, but I would also think nothing of riding around a lunging horse. Just last week I was riding my under-60-rides filly while someone was long-lining on the other end of the ring. Horses need to learn to work in distraction-present environments and lunging (and riding near lunging horses) well is another required job for my riding horses. The order of âright of wayâ in most barns Iâve been in is walkers have the quarterline, lungers stay exclusively on one end of the ring (typically the non-entrance side), and riders can ride around or choose to stay on the other side exclusively.
Iâd probably find it weird that a rider asked me to leave and/or move, but Iâd oblige and not hold onto it. What is more important â being ârightâ, or having a good working relationship with your fellow boarders?
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My boarding barn has a huge indoor. 320 feet by 80. Jumping is done at the far end, lunging in the middle, flat riding at end closest to the indoor. Rule is only one person allowed to lunge at a time but lunging can be done while others are riding or lessoning. So the OPâs situation depends on a lot of things that have already been mentioned: rules, size of arena, etc. But no need for the OP to have a meltdown. Just ask the BO/BM what the rules are.
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At our large very mixed discipline recreational barn, you canât longe with more than 2 riders in the ring, you have to ask if anyone is riding, you canât longe during lessons unless the coach says OK, but you can finish your longe session if you are alone and a rider enters.
At our barn you can find any combination ftom green rider to low level pro, and horse from unbroken OTTB to level headed old soul.
Interestingly the backyard pros that believe turnout is âtoo dangerousâ tend to be the ones flying a bucking farting overfed WB around on a string.
Anyhow the last time I tried to ride around an apparently quiet longeing horse he bolted on the longe. Fortunately he was on the opposite side of the circle from me. My horse also broke into a sideways canter and spiral in toward the handler. No harm done, but it made me remember my lesson instructions from my previous barnto never do this. If the longe got wrapped around the horse it would be a disaster.
On the other hand, I did a lesson at the previous barn once with a mini driving a cart in the middle of the arena and no one minded.
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OP, this is the one thing I havenât seen you answer yet - if you did and I missed it, Iâm sorry. Was the halter hanging by the gate, or was it laying by the gate? If it was hanging up by the gate, was it in the way of people riding on the rail? And if it was on the ground - thatâs just a no. Halters are never left on the ground. Itâs dangerous.
I know what itâs like to feel you donât belong. But horsemanship is horsemanship. For some, the barn is about belonging and camaraderie; for others, itâs about work. I think for this woman, itâs about the work. Perhaps this is the only night that week she had to come ride. Perhaps her horse was a bit spooky. Perhaps sheâd recently had an incident and was feeling nervous. Either way, I canât say that youâre overreacting, because I wasnât there, but I can see her side of it as well.
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