No ma’am, that is not it at all!! Missy Adult Manepuller Susie had no right to touch MY horse without my permission. My horse, not hers!
There was zero communication about mane pulling because I would have never allowed it!
Now that I think about it this is the second time I’ve had this horse be handled without my explicit permission that I know of!! When I first purchased him I boarded him at a seemingly nice barn that had most of the stalls subletted out to different trainers and programs. One day when I went to the barn he wasn’t in his stall. Not in his paddock either. Finally found him in the indoor, being ridden by a CHILD in a lesson.
He was FIVE and only TWO MONTHS off the track!! Such a dude. 
THAT I did have a Complete Loss of One’s $hit Over. He was moved the next day. There were other reasons that factored into the move but that pushed me right over the edge.
LOL I’ve been a member of this forum for nearly 20 years; you’ve been here what? Five days? Makes me wonder who is the troll.
Not supporting their posts - but a year ago. They joined a year ago per their profile.
I read it as June 20. I wondered about it, so I checked my profile – it states the year: “Joined January 10, '02” Our friend’s does not.
Oh, I did not think of that. I assumed it was saying June of 2020. You are smart. I did not check my profile to see what it said for me.
I think you are 100% correct on what you originally posted. Sorry to interupt.
I might would have caught A&B charges over that. Sorry not sorry
Priceless! (As is your horse). Maybe they wanted to give the broncs and runaways a rest.
Hey man. You came at me first. You obviously have to say I’m wrong bc you can’t help yourself.
Sounds like you need to talk to the barn manager. Either something was miscommunicated to the rider or something. Since everyone is jumping my case since I’m still thinking it’s miscommunication of the boundaries that these individuals are clearly crossing. You really need to confront the individual about what they can and can’t do with your horse. If you have anymore issues, then go to management. If they don’t do anything, then it may be time to consider leaving that barn.
You must have missed it up thread…the OP has talked to the barn owner/manager.
Why do you think this is a communication error and not just someone doing something they were not supposed to?
I have done stupid things, and they were not done because someone told me it was OK or I thought someone told me it was OK, they were done because I just did not think long enough to realize how out of line they were. (Like giving treats to horses who are not mine, for example.)
My name is not “man.”
And you are wrong; you’ve been wrong from your very first post. Further, I did not “come at” you.
I simply said I thought you misunderstood. Adults admit when they’ve made a mistake. Childish people double down and dig in their heels. I’m not going to engage with you any further.
It’s simple: no other boarders should be handling the OP’s horse in any way, shape, or form without the owner’s permission. PERIOD. End of story. And workers should only be handling a horse to clean the stall, turn out, feed, etc… Nothing else unless the owner has expressly requested it.
It was very clear from the OP’s post that there was no request for any such interaction. “Susie” rode the horse a few times over the winter for lessons - i.e., MONTHS ago - per the OP. Even back when taking lessons, “Susie” had no right to pull the horse’s mane. It is not her horse. The sense of entitlement some people have is absolutely staggering.
Sweet! Thank you so much
Bc they’d had interactions prior since she loaned her the horse in the past. They should have had discussions on what was cool or not.
Miscommunication happens all the time. The OP did not get the adequate communication she desired prior to the other boarder messing with the horse so by definition it’s miscommunication.
We can go back and forth all day about everyone’s point of view, but at the end of the day I still stand by view that this is miscommunication. So whomever else wants to come out of the woodworks trying to persuade me that I’m viewing this incorrectly is wasting their time.
So all in all, the OP came on here to vent to thousands of strangers. Now they have to be the adult and have a discussion with the other boarder that what they did was not cool and ask that they don’t do it again. It’s really that simple.
Y’all have a good one.
There are so many not cool things, things that most people take for granted, to try and list them all and have discussions on them would be impossible.
If you can’t see that this is wrong, then I worry for you.
Since you’re new here, I’ll offer a valuable tip. It is helpful to read the entire thread before offering your opinion about what did and did not happen.
Another piece of helpful advice: having “interactions” with someone in the past does not give you the right to handle their horse at any time in the future without permission. Having been graciously loaned a horse to ride on a couple of occasions does not give you the right to ride, groom, train, longe, turn in / out, bathe, clip, or in fact touch that horse in any way at any other time without the explicit permission of the owner.
I will chime in if it really needs to be said, and add that I would be absolutely horrified and furious if anyone, trainer leaser or barn buddy, took it on themselves to change my horses’ hair style without my express approval first. That includes mane, tail, forelock, whiskers, fetlocks, and body clipping. I keep my Paint’s mane natural, and I’m working with a green Lusitano cross for whom huge full manes and tails are a breed characteristic. When they need to make an appearance they can get a running braid which is perfectly acceptable.
I would add I’ve had half leases where I was told not to even brush the mane and tail daily. Just leave them alone to grow, owner will wash and untangle as needed for shows.
It’s not miscommunication when some barn brat messes with your horses hair. Unless you actually asked them to do this. Otherwise it’s a huge violation of barn norms and honestly it is vandalism.
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