I have read and re-read all these replies and can’t thank you all enough. If I can’t reply to all of you individually, I apologize, but you all have helped me tremendously and it’s great to see others have been in similar situations and have shared similar feelings of apprehension, frustration, etc.
@BatCoach My trainer is aware of my frustration/feelings and I’m honestly surprised she’s been this patient with me. As many others have eluded, I’m pretty high strung & high pressure and she has managed to put up with me. Her school horses are amazing and run the gamut from well trained/well mannered all the way to very sensitive and challenging and each provide me with things I need to work on. She knows many people who have horses to sell/lease so I don’t need to look far but she also knows I’m house hunting as well.
@Scribbler This is a great point and one that I haven’t internalized admittedly. My trainer can spot it quickly if I (or the horse) are struggling and stiff at the begging of the lesson, so we’ll work on circles, leg yields, shoulder-ins, half halts, serpentines before proceeding to anything else and by the end of the lesson, me and the horse are relaxed are copacetic. Huge difference between the first half and second half of the lesson. I guess I always internalized that as poor riding and inconsistency on my part when in reality, perhaps we just weren’t warmed up. This is something I need to work on when I ride on my own.
@Ceffyl_Dwr I love the barn, more so when there are no people there. I’m there all Sunday, my only day off, basically doing groom stuff in between riding. When it comes to supplements though, admittedly I’m usually thinking about supplements for me
@soloudinhere That is rough, I hope your horse gets better. I do understand what you’re saying though.
@Gardenhorse I have definitely progressed and should be kinder to myself. It’s just the lack of consistency that really gets to me. I think if I had more of that, I’d be less frustrated but as others have said, such is dressage. I think I came into the sport with certain expectations. I wasn’t ready to have my riding deconstructed and have all these issues emerge when I didn’t think they existed. I knew I had things to rectify but I’m getting my ass kicked by basic walk/trot/canter. As @KayGee eluded to, it’s quite humbling.