I have just been through this with my guy.
It is so different from riding a forward horse.
What people usually say does not work when the horse is not forward. When you get this same horse forward then what people say does work.
My boy was not forward. Ears back. Not happy. As my instructor said he would have A$$hole moments when he would say no.
I was trying so hard I would feel physically sick.
I do put myself in the advanced rider category but not an upper level rider yet.
He lunges perfectly in sidereins, not a step wrong. Under saddle I had to resort to someone having a lunge whip. When I ask for canter he slows. It is frustrating to say the least.
So what has worked in the end. I was carrying 2 whips but not using them when needed. He does not just buck, he leaps in the air and then bucks, so psychologically I did not really want to use them. He of course knew this and did not help by flinching along his whole side when I turned my wrist to lift the whip.
I had already taught him slow and quick. He does it on the lunge as well. He will do it with voice. You want him to try. This is important as he is praised for going ##slow## as well as being praised for going forward.
So first lesson I was told to pick one consequence whether whip or kick. It must be the same consequence, immediately as a shock every single time I ask.
This started with walking being led from being tacked. I click he must walk forward or tap with whip.
I mounted and walked and asked for trot, he did not respond immediately, so I tapped with the whip. Good boy when he goes. I am more confident using the whip at walk so I did that again. That was really it. It worked straight away.
It has been 2 months. I mount at x walk to v and ask for trot. He is cold backed and walking to warm up does not work for him. We trot to the corner and I ask for walk. I want that for when he is fresh as a horse doing a downward transition is confidence building. We trot around twice with no contact. Change rein and trot around twice. Then we change rein and canter around twice with no contact. Yes the horse I could not get to canter is now cantering soon into being ridden which helps his back to warm up and twice in the last week I have used the whip in canter with no contact and he has not flinched or bucked, so I think I am cured.
From there I ask for contact and do a few trot walk transitions. I have gotten the praise of good for them in my lessons. Sitting trot and walk on the 3rd step. I ask for trot he must go immediately or a tap.
From there slow and quick in trot, so collecting and working trot.
In the 6 weeks from that first tap from the tack shed. We are doing walk, trot snd canter with contact and are working on lighter aids. In the canter I was told if he did not go in immediately I had to override it and then trot and ask again. You have no idea how much I smile now when I ask for canter and he canters. I am now working on medium trots. Those 2 things were just a dream. We have started doing walk canters. I never thought that would be possible.
He sweats now he is trying so hard. He is happy to work now. I do not need the whip now.
I am riding my dream horse every day. He is working his heart out for me. I am so happy.
I have started sitting collected trot. I haven’t done that for years.
6 weeks ago I thought I was trying to force a square peg into a round hole and I should get another horse.
4 lessons with an instructor I know who has really only told me things that I already did know and I am riding a completely different horse. YAY.