Honestly, this person may be getting these things paid for by someone else.
I had someone comment to me once when I complained about things being tight and they made a comment about all my tattoos being $$$. Well I didn’t pay for a single tattoo. So, just keep in mind you don’t know someones financial situation, or that they may have a BF or family that pays for those things.
You act like this is all choices you made.
I was always fed the line that “if you work hard and get good grades you will always have financial security” and one Ivy League law degree later, inclusive of side stints at the Sorbonne and Universities Humboldt in Berlin, I was laid off from my white shoe BigLaw firm after Lehman Bros collapsed.
I spent the next ten years doing a mix of riding professionally and “scrappy lawyering” before I finally got firmly back on my feet again. Never again will I put 40-70 hours a week into one employer’s basket and be employed or not at someone else’s whim.
So, congrats on your excellent choices to not have your professional field turn into pretty much a nationwide slaughter field promptly upon your graduation, or any of a thousand other things that could have happened to detail your corporate conveyor belt.
She is an equestrian influencer. I don’t think LV or revolve/ designers are sending her free items.
They are choices I made, and things I sacrificed for, for the bigger picture.
You want to hold it against me that I chose a profession that didnt get a kick in the butt?
I could easily have continued on and gone to grad/ law school, and again, I chose to go corporate as that would get me to my dream/ goals faster.
They are life choices.
You are saying it’s not possible. But it is possible, maybe not always, but it is still possible. I’m in my 30s and living proof it is possible.
No but she might have a BF who provides these for her. That’s pretty common.
I’m not saying it isn’t possible.
(And I’m not complaining as I am doing quite well for myself now.)
However there are plenty of people who do the work and make the choices and work three times as hard and it doesn’t work out that way for them.
Sure you worked hard, but you were also LUCKY.
sorry to thread hijack, but congrats on sobriety.
many close to me are sober (myself included), I am nearing 2 years now this December. I too found that my old corporate job (ibanking and private equity) fostered some substance abuse issues - alcohol wasn’t my vice, but alcohol was usually the pathway to said vices…
I work remotely in tech now and half my coworkers don’t drink - and it works really well for me. Crazy how environments impact people differently. I secretly would love to work for an FEI dressage rider (dressage junior so the discipline is close to my heart). Your situation now sounds pretty great as well! Congrats again 
I still think that where you live makes a huge difference in whether horses as an adult is a feasible thing. Not only the vast difference in real estate and acreage prices in different areas, but the available of horse facilities and services.
This is absolutely true. I couldn’t afford to keep horses in Westchester County back when I was working in Big Law making $165k. They all lived in (and I moved to) NJ.
Now I live in a place where the horse still costs a little over $1000/month for board and farrier, but the rest of life is so affordable (as in, I have two mortgages that are under $500, with taxes and insurance factored in) that it’s affordable with room to spare.
However this area is reaching a point where all of our vets and farriers are on the brink of retirement with no young blood in sight, so short of buying a truck and trailer and hauling 7 hours to Cornell round trip every five weeks, I’m not sure how this is going to go in ten years.
Agreed - I made the same move. I now make 1/2 of what I made when I was in biglaw in NYC. But full care board at one of the nicest barns in the area is $600 a month and my mortgage on a 3 bedroom house is exactly half what my rent was on my 1 bedroom apartment. I couldn’t have afforded a horse while working in NYC, but in Upstate NY its completely doable.
If you can. Do it. Live somewhere else, make new friends, learn a ton. Who knows where life will take you. If you want it, corporate will still be there, but you’ll have a renewed vision of why you are there.
One thing about corporate life is if you’re always hankering after something else, you progress will be slower than those that throw themselves in wholeheartedly. If your own horse and set up is something you really want then a clean break from where you are, a year or so learning and then returning to a situation where living and working is more feasible than your current set up is all good. Who knows where the WFH cultural revolution will go next, but after some time out you may well be able to return to a completely different set up to the life you have now. Working with colleagues via a screen is tedious, but it’s infinitely more doable to work via screen, than ride via screen.
No life is perfect. But going and living an alternative while you can will give you a new perspective. Scratch that itch. Life’s short and the window of time you have to scratch those itches gets ever shorter.
@Rel6, I love this. It’s so hard to give up the big paycheck and the lifestyle that comes with it. Good for you, for following your heart.
Thank you! But honestly, the biggest lifestyle difference is just not living in NYC. I own a home, I have a nice horse I keep at a nice barn - even with such a big paycut, I live a comfortable life because the COL is so much lower where I am now. The biggest impact the paycut had was not being able to pay off my student loans as aggressively (because they aren’t affected by COL, obviously). But I think it just speaks to how important COL is that my lifestyle hasn’t felt dramatically different financially, despite a massive paycut, simply because I no longer pay NYC prices for everything.
My job would pay about the same wherever I lived, maybe more. But the cost of real estate could be a lot less. Where I live, your basic condo is over $500k, a suburban bungalow is $1.5 million, and horse property is $5 million. If I lived in a lower cost city, I could buy a nice acreage for the cost of a condo here. That’s all just a matter of luck, where you end up on the academic job market. On the other hand there are places where horse ownership might be impossible altogether.
Ok I have my entire group chat on this to see if this is me…
Unfortunately no boyfriend to buy my clothes…
I also share Revolve, flaunt my Fake Designer bag everywhere I go, and I eat 99% of my meals takeout because I can’t cook. (It’s bad) But, I really thought I shared the link to where I buy my fake bags… I don’t gatekeep these things. (I actually have made about as much commission off my fakebag share than I do Revolve, but Revolve does pay high commissions so usually it negates what I buy.)
If I did complain, super super sorry. (You can DM me and I’ll send the link to my Frada Bag )
If this is not me, I would love to befriend the influencer who seems to live the same way I do, and we can share a bottle of wine and complain about loving horses and shoes.
(Making content online is a very weird, tricky game. I do it, poorly, but you do see that the more you open up about your life, the more views, which translates to earnings you receive. And I for one try to align with brands who create products I like and pay you fairly for the work. Revolve turn-arounds are my highest selling content. I can post an image, not even wearing the top, just that I found and liked it, and usually make money on it. I do think some of “us” don’t feel comfortable about sharing the commissions/earnings side of it. I’m happy to answer questions about it.)
But maybe it’s not me
No idea what you are asking sorry? Is what you?
Apropos of nothing, but I have so many questions about this. How the heck did you get in and out of the barn (grooming, tack up, ride, cool down, untack, clean up) in 45 minutes? Holy cow, that’s impressive. Second, you went straight to work from the barn? I always smell like manure and look like I crawled out of a damp dumpster.
Upthread someone mentioned a SM personality that complained about the cost of horses but seemed to flaunt disposable luxuries.
I think this response is pointing out that SM posts are a performance, you need to perform being “open” about your life in a “relatable” way but also link to things that are monetized for your channel. Like you get a percentage for driving traffic to a sales site. So you often need to display consumer goods clothes etc because your channel is earning you money by advertising them.
thank you for breaking that down for me haha
In my actual life I do this, I do see that the poster didn’t mention if this personality was equestrian related or not. But initially, my group of friends (and I) were curious as to how many "Eventing personalities also share “Revolve” and designer (both real and faux) things. Ironically, I’m in GA and there’s been messages sent to me by accounts in Texas that haven’t loved my content. So, my flame-suit went on.
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