Let it go. Make neighbors instead of enemies. It might be handy to have a person you can trust to let the dog out in an emergency, or to swap pet-sitting with.
People these days seem to get bent out of shape when others don’t act in the manner that they would. She was well-meaning, albeit wrong. Accept her apology and make friends.
StG
You’re angry because she owned up to making a mistake, gave a genuine apology, and baked cookies.
The flip side of this is that you have a neighbor who not only does not mind you leaving your dog staked out unsupervised in a community backyard but also has experience in a vet’s office. Maybe you should be baking her cookies.
maybe community was the wrong word to describe the yard. There’s 6 townhomes per building. We’re in the middle and she’s on the end. My dog stays right behind our unit. It’s all open and no fencing since the owners maintain the grass.
As far as her working for a vet, she should of known better. I’m upset about her coming over and feeding my dog without asking if it was ok. Yes she didn’t know she had stomach issues, but that’s one reason you should never assume it’s ok. My kids know that they should ask before approaching, petting, or feeding any animal to make sure it’s ok.
Clearly you simply like being mad.
Your neighbor made a mistake. Your neighbor admitted the mistake. Your neighbor apologized for the mistake.
Move on, accept the apology.
Why act like this was something intentional they did just to harm you? So what that they should have known better. It sounds like they do know better and had a lapse of judgement which they now feel horrible for.
I will not say it as well as it was said in another thread but - it is not the mistake that counts, it is what you do after the mistake that shows what type of person you are.
Your neighbor sounds like a good person.
You are not looking the same way the way you are carrying on about this.
Wow. She messed up, she apologized, then came back WITH COOKIES to apologize again! Everybody deserves a mulligan.
The OP loves to court trouble and keep it stirred up. I am basing that solely on everything she’s posted about her messy life. Sometimes it’s messy for a reason.
I do understand if you have been having health trouble with the dog, not wanting them to have anything extra, but honestly if it is THAT big of a deal the dog shouldn’t be outside unsupervised because who knows what they could end up eating that could upset them.
I know some people are super picky about treats for their animals, but I personally never have been one of those. If the person is around yeah I ask if it is ok, but there are times they are not and yeah I have given a horse a treat that is not mine a treat without permission. I am pretty sure my horse has begged treats from someone without me knowing.
Obviously if there is a sign or the owner has expressed that they do not wish treats to be given I would never do so. I feel personally there are much bigger issues to be mad and upset over than someone being nice to your pet.
There was something around here with people in certain neighborhoods actually having their pets poisoned. It wasn’t my neighborhood, but even though I don’t leave mine alone in the fence because my fence isn’t really designed for that, it shook me up. Even walking my dogs on leashes I’ve had to reach in one’s mouth to pull out a chicken leg that someone left on the ground.
I would definitely make friends with this neighbor. She likes your dog and could be an ally in the neighborhood in the future. The fact that she apologized to me demonstrates that she is basically a good person. I have a dog with an extremely sensitive system, so I can understand your anxiety, but believe me when I say that this wasn’t the worst thing that could happen. If I had my dog tethered in a townhouse area where others could approach her, I’d probably give the neighbor lady some acceptable treats to keep the dog happy about having people come up to her area. I really think that you need to adjust your attitude about this person, because while she made a mistake, we shouldn’t take friendly neighbors for granted.
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The OP loves to court trouble and keep it stirred up. I am basing that solely on everything she’s posted about her messy life. Sometimes it’s messy for a reason.[/QUOTE]
This. Seriously. So many times I have read on here about someone catching strangers feeding their animals and feeling no remorse when confronted about it. Thisbtime we have someone who acknowledged she was wrong and apologized and that is still not enough. OP, what do you want from her, exactly?
Is there a reason the neighbor thought it necessary to feed your dog? Is your dog underweight?
No she’s in good weight. She said she thought she was pretty and friendly. I don’t know if she has done this to the other dogs that are out all day.
Wow, you have a great neighbor!!! I always feel bad for dogs that are chained, you never really know if it’s just for a few hours or all day. Plus the issue of shelter, something to lay on and the big possibility that they could be attacked by another dog that was loose.
I give my neighbors dog treats all the time. He barks a lot and the bit of attention I give him will keep him quiet for hours. The times their dog has escaped out of the fenced yard I have been able to catch him and put him in my yard because he knows me.
All honestly what is up with all of you that say they feed other people’s animals without permission? You don’t know if the dog has allergies, restricted diet, sick or normal. If I didn’t put my other dog down and she fed her that cheap food and cause another flare up with her allergies, that wouldn’t of been fair to her just because someone thought they were being nice. It’s fine if you know the animal/owner and they are ok but a stranger’s animal?
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OP, what do you want from her, exactly?[/QUOTE]
^^^^ This!
It has been 5 days since you first posted and you are still upset about it?
No I’m just responding to some of the posts
Our elderly neighbors feed our dogs treats everyday at about 5:30 pm from our fenced yard. After I put down one of my dogs my neighbor called and asked where he was and cried when I told her he was put down.
My dogs are fine with treats (I don’t feed treats) and extra love is always appreciated for my pets.
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maybe community was the wrong word to describe the yard. There’s 6 townhomes per building. We’re in the middle and she’s on the end. My dog stays right behind our unit. It’s all open and no fencing since the owners maintain the grass.
As far as her working for a vet, she should of known better. I’m upset about her coming over and feeding my dog without asking if it was ok. Yes she didn’t know she had stomach issues, but that’s one reason you should never assume it’s ok. My kids know that they should ask before approaching, petting, or feeding any animal to make sure it’s ok.[/QUOTE]
Sure they do. Just like your kids always ask permission before going into a neighbor’s house. Personally, I think you just like to complain.
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Sure they do. Just like your kids always ask permission before going into a neighbor’s house. Personally, I think you just like to complain.[/QUOTE]
There you go.
OP, don’t PM me about this thread.
8 readers agreed with me. 4 agreed with ddashaq. And here’s another.
You are at the middle of your messes for a reason.
They do ask before going into someone elses house unless they were invited in. No I don’t go looking for trouble or start shit. If you don’t like what I have to say just don’t read my posts. Simple as that
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They do ask before going into someone elses house unless they were invited in. No I don’t go looking for trouble or start shit. If you don’t like what I have to say just don’t read my posts. Simple as that[/QUOTE]
Uh huh. Funny, this is your post, OP.
She wasn’t suppose to be over there. Both of my girls were told they were not allowed over there but they still went anyways. Of course when i found out they were punished for not listening. My oldest is the worse. Tells me she’s going to 1 person’s house and ends up at another’s.
http://www.chronofhorse.com/forum/showthread.php?410896-people-need-to-grow-up
It’s just one drama after another.
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