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No good deed goes unpunished,eh?..OP you have found yourself in the unenviable position none of us wants to have to deal with…
You have mentioned that you and LT are adults…No offense intended, but how old are we talking here?..Behaviors you have mentioned tend to lean to twentysomethingish…
First clue to me is the Facebook disclosure worries…For the life of me I don’t understand the need to post every move someone is making, what they are thinking, what they like, etc…Maybe I am just a little less trusting then most, but I find it odd when I see this often on the newsfeed… (I have family members who do this on a regular basis )…No matter what kind of privacy settings you think you can control here, I just don’t think it is possible once the can of Facebook worms has been opened…People disclose WAY too much thinking that only their closest friends are going to see it, yet they have 400 or more “friends”…Limiting your posting is one of your 1st good ideas…
Not answering her texts to you was the next good thing you have done…The cell phone is a wonderful modern convenience that makes our lives easier, until you have someone who feels you should be available to them 24/7…Just because she calls/texts doesn’t mean she deserves an immediate response…
You say you have been at this barn for 15 years…I don’t know that I would be eager to play the “its her or me” card given that there is a long waiting list…How did she get in if the wait is long?..Is she more of an employee who brought her horse?..I would think in 15 years you have some sort of relationship with the BO/BM that would allow you to discuss your concerns and at least let them know that you are experiencing a problem that you are having a difficult time addressing on your own…LT may just appear to be an overeager employee to BO…
Lastly, how is LT supporting herself?..Being at the barn from 6:30 am til at times late in the evening Mon-Sat (did I get that right?) doesn’t lend itself to other gainful employment…Sooo, I imagine she doesn’t have much of a life outside the barn and trying to endear herself to you…
Again, none of us here envy your position, but keeping a cool, calm head, a chat with your BO, and keeping her at arms length may help…
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To answer some of your questions above, we are both in our 20s. I am a bit older than LT.
LT got in off of the waiting list after I bridged the initial gap between her and BO to get her on the waiting list. She began working at the barn after being strictly a boarder.
The only money that she makes to support herself (that I’m aware of) comes from her barn work income. I’d rather not disclose too many more specifics of her living situation, as it’s not a very typical one and might give away identities. She doesn’t appear to have much of a life outside of the barn.
