I am SO happy to have all of these stories and opinions. I spoke again with our mutual trainer, and asked his honest opinion of whether he thinks I can work with this horse and this behavior and gave him my ideas of how I am going to start from scratch, as if this horse has never been ridden, do a lot of bomb proofing, clicker training, trust and confidence building, going on lots of hand walks, working in a round pen at first, then an enclosed arena. I also want to teach him to give to the bit, and learn to disengage the hindquarters, and follow the feel, so to speak. I won’t overface him, or put him in situation where he is made insecure to revert back to old habits, I don’t need a trail horse. I don’t think he has ever been ridden much outside of a ring, that is where he seems comfortable. If I can eventually ride him around my farm, and feel safe, then we will, as an end goal, but not for a long time…we will stick to what he is comfortable with. 24/7 turnout weather permitting, little to no starches/hard feed/vitamins, Canadians are air ferns so I don’t think they do well with what some other horses can eat and get away with.
I have always taken in horses that other people have let down, either starved, misunderstood, unbroke, badly behaving, lame, etc, and rehabbed them to the best of my abilities, and poured my heart and soul into them. Then I either kept them or if they needed a different rider, situation or whatever, I found them the perfect homes by carefully matching horse and owner, and keep following up on them. I’m going into this with my eyes wide open, and will keep reevaluating my approach and methods as we go on, and adjust.
I also am thinking about getting a comfortable aussie saddle to ride him in, totally different for him, and very secure for me, and changing the bit, too, so that there are no connections to previous training and bad episodes, at least at first. I do think he has always been ridden in a lot of contact, and maybe is insecure if he is on a long rein or not in constant connection to the rider. My upper level horse that I bought was like that, I could not at first ride him on a loose rein to warm up or cool down, he would just get scared and start scooting, now I can usually trust him to relax and not have to be collected and up all the time. I’d like to get this horse softer and lighter on the bit, not that he is pulling at all, just a bit heavier than I like and I’m not able to just flex my finger and have him give to it. The seller was a bit heavy with her hands and had him behind the vertical and head cranked up high with a whip and spurs. I want to be able to get him to stretch and bring his back up and under more and get more muscled there.
I somehow have a feeling that this gelding was meant to come to me. From the moment I spotted his ad when I was looking for a horse for my friend, and the moment I sat on his back, I felt a connection, and had an almost giddy type of school girl crush, just that we ‘fit’, and I could feel him under my seat questioning me as to who I was and what did I want, and adjusting himself to me without hesitation. I’ve never felt that way when going to try a horse. Very sensitive, intuitive and kind of an old soul, I think he may have been pushed and just treated like a machine, not an individual. I also think they are raised in huge herds and not handled much as babies, so a lot of early opportunities missed to teach him trust and not to fear.
When I went to see him down south a few weeks after he had gotten to the new owners barn, I stepped out of the car, said “Oh, There is the handsome boy” quietly. His head went up like a periscope, he locked eyes on me, and stepped half a step forward and stood there alert, watchful, concentrating on me, until I got to him and went up and petted him and started talking to him, whereupon he immediately started kissing me. It was very intense and focused, more than a normal reaction to a person coming up, I just KNEW he remembered me from our first and only meeting and couldn’t wait to see me. Maybe it’s fate, I lost my heart horse a few years ago, that I had that kind of intense soul to soul partnership with, maybe the one I lost has sent this one to me…Crazy, I know…lol