My horse chose.
I have become fearful of hurting my horse, as he got very sick and nearly died 8 or so years ago. I was jumping him before he got sick and having so much fun. After that, I became scared which made jumping not so fun. We did the occasional fence and I just couldn’t make myself do it with all the “what ifs” running through my head. I then trail rode him a lot (he prefers trail 100% to ring work). I taught him to pull a cart (he loved it).
Now we mostly stick to flatting (hunter-ish style) and trail riding. I often wish I could pop him over a jump, but whenever I do I hang onto his face and he gets fast/scared. It’s all my issues, so we just stick to w/t/c. Thankfully his canter is a dream and it makes me smile all day long, so there isn’t much need for anything else. I hope to take him camping eventually, which he would love.
As a child I started western, but really only liked the crazy stuff (barrels, adventure trail riding etc). As soon as I got my first horse (ex-trail horse with 0 arena training), I taught him how to jump. I went a year or so with no saddle so I rode him bareback over all sorts of jumps. We jumped x-country fences, jumper, hunter etc. He would jump anything and everything. I was fearless, as was he! My sister and I would do puissance competitions. When you’re fearless, jumping draws you in I suppose!
Oh how the times change!