In real life, I watch how people interact with horses and how they interact with people. Do they create a relaxed, happy animal that is willing to work and learn? Do they speak respectfully and do they explain themselves in a way that I can understand them?
Asking for advice and giving it over the interwebs? It is very hard. You are not there to evaluate what is truly going on. You are only able to go by what is written, and as I’m sure we have all seen on many of these threads, things don’t get mentioned, or exaggerated, or lessened. When folks give advise, they are doing so from there own personal experiences and biases.
On this bulletin board, I have read MANY, MANY threads. Some advice resonates with me and my experiences. Some of the advice is less than stellar, and I take it with a grain of salt. Some of it I file away, it won’t work with the situation I’m in now, but it may be a tool that I can use at another time on another horse.
Reading, experiencing, and reflecting on the outcomes are the tools I use to become a better horsewoman, for me and for the horses I interact with.