I heard something today that made me think of this thread.
Paraphrased, I can’t remember the exact quote –
“Boundaries aren’t something we can set for others. Boundaries are what we set for ourselves.”
They went on to explain that basically, we do whatever we have to do to protect ourselves, rather than change the behavior of others.
We can try to influence others. We can make a reasonable attempt to create change in them. But can’t control what they do.
What we can do is make whatever change we need to make in our own sphere and lives, to protect ourselves.
Some of those changes may be ones we wish we didn’t have to do. It’s about outcomes that are better than what we have now, whatever that outcome is. And only we can decide which path leads to the best outcome for ourselves.
I thought it was an interesting way of thinking about situations where other people are encroaching on our peace.