Between the pneumonia I had 2 1/2 years ago and leukemia my lungs are seriously damaged. My husband has taken over the house and barn. I cannot say often enough how much I appreciate him and all he does.
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I just told my DH this morning that I applied to adopt a Standard Poodle from the rescue.
His eyeballs are really bigger than I thought.
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My DH was willing to miss his huge hobby once a year opportunity to stay with me while our pony was colicing. She ended up ok and I convinced him to go. He supports my riding and happily feeds treats to any and all animals we have. He does evening chores feeding the goats, pony and dogs since I do morning chores. We’re beefing up the pony shelter this weekend in freezing cold weather. I 
him so much. We do keep finances separate and I pay more than half of the house bills so there’s no issue with cost I’m shouldering all of that. Previous relationships I’d feel guilty or have fights about spending time at the barn.
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#reasonswhyimsingle.
Jk. I have no idea how to find a man in almost 2023 that would put up with this lifestyle…
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I know I am very lucky. We have been married for 52 years
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My first husband had never been around horses and frankly was a bit afraid of them. He worked in explosive ordnance disposal for a living. But he became quite fond of my sweet old mare and became her full-time automatic treat dispenser. She trained him well. When she had her baby he became a photographer.
Second husband was different. His first wife trained racehorses and they owned a string. He had a hard time understanding why I had several broken down horses and nothing to ride. A couple of times he offered me one of their string that was retiring to ride and suggested I put 1 or 2 of the seniors down. After the second “discussion” he never brought it up again.
That being said, he was always willing to help with chores, hold for vet/farrier, and would sharpen my farrier’s tools for her. He was very frugal and often had some great ideas for making jobs simpler.
Forgot to mention that both were good about buying horsey things for my birthday/Christmas. I’d just list things I wanted and they could pick from the list. First non-horsey guy bought nice sheets for both horses our first Christmas. I much preferred that than some gift he would have picked out for me instead.
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Mr. McGurk is amazingly tolerant.
He understands that this is my passion and joy, and supports it. He’ll pretty much do whatever needs to be done, as long as it isn’t actually handling the horses.
He does not want to handle the horses after an unfortunate incident bringing the horses in (two horses in the same stall, fighting for the space, while he was also in the stall. 
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He loves our sweet retired 10 hand pony and insists he has a home here for life.
He’s great about putting out hay and checking water, great about helping me with pasture maintenance, great about putting up hay.
He tolerates my being away on riding trips frequently.
For example; when I was walking a colicky one, he kept me supplied with drinks and snacks, and brought me a jacket when it got cool. When I had a dead lame one, he drove to Tractor Supply, bought extra bedding, came home and bedded a stall for him while I was treating the horse.
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Last night we came home to a large box delivered to the front steps. Mr. Zuzu’s Petals said, “Hunh. I didn’t order anything that big. Maybe it’s something horsey?” And then, very sweetly and brightly, he said, “Did you order a saddle?”
It wasn’t, in fact, a saddle. But now I know what I could get away with. Heh heh hehhhhh.
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A leaser at my barn recently revealed that she and her newlywed husband were currently split up because he was jealous of the time she spent with the horses. She was not riding when they met, and I guess it came as a shock to him. It sounds like they are working it out now. But when I came home and told my husband about it, he was astounded. Like he couldn’t imagine questioning my barn time, and said “I have a good idea that if I insisted you stay home with me all the time, I’d end up getting stabbed in my sleep.” I guess if he just sees it as a self-preservation strategy, that’s OK too.
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While other women drool over designer shoes and handbags, all us dorks on this thread are drooling over this horsey laundry room setup in your garage.
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Outdoor blankets go to a professional to get waterproofed and repaired. Everything else goes into the regular washer and dryer. SO is an electrician, he can’t really complete about some horse hair when his clothes are covered in mud and old insulation.
But in all seriousness he is very tolerant. I encouraged him to buy a $30k fishing boat right before I left for two weeks at WEC. 
He kept my chickens alive while I was gone too.
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I love the big dent in the one washer. “See? I was frugal! And I gave a forever home to an abused appliance.”
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Not going to vent…but just saying…I am sooo jealous of all of you!!!
The trick is to get him into a pricey sport. Golf is a good place to start. If he wants his own golf cart, “You deserve a golf cart!” Lessons w pros? “Oh, do it!”
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He golfs…and watches sports in the living room or documentaries on murder which I cannot stand, or plays the ps5. Does not make him any nicer about “the damm horse”
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