I rarely come to CoTH any more but had to log in to express my condolences as well. May you and yours continue to be surrounded by love for all your days.
I haven’t been on COTH for a bit, and just saw this. My heart simply breaks for Tamara and her family. My sincere condolences.
BES
May we never have to find out how we would handle such a tragedy, but God forbid we did, we certainly have a road map to follow. Truly awe inspiring and I have no doubt she has lots of divine help along the way. I hope that comforts them in time.
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May we never have to find out how we would handle such a tragedy, but God forbid if we did, we certainly have a road map to follow. [/QUOTE]
Spirit Warrior in action. Magnificent.
How absolutely tragic & sad & horrible. 
I cannot even begin to grasp how the family must feel.
I can only offer cyber {{{{hugs}}}} to all.
Dear Tamara: I’ve only just come back and read all this. Truly shocking.
You have always been so open and honest in sharing your deepest thoughts and showing us pictures of your remarkable place, I feel I know you more than probably any other COTH poster. Having just been through two big losses myself this brings up a lot of emotions and tears. God bless.
hi all
well. it’s been a long few days. We picked out the casket for him at the funeral home yesterday.
Now it must be said that the undertaker has known Himself since he was born.And we all went to the same church for years. He is about 84 ish.Slender,gentleman,impeccable manners and dress…totally “old school”
With that back story, we head into the “furniture stores of caskets” in their back room
and the undertaker says “now I’ll leave you folks alone” and I said “well you’ll hardly make a good sale that way.” he smiled and winked and then walked with me…
Himself raised two female replicas of himself, in my daughters…they are 12 and 19 and had as much say as I did in this …("$15,000 ?!! for some thing going under the ground…that’s stupid…That embroidery is totally cheesy…ummm no that dark wood is nicer than that pine…why does a vault have to be fancy… ") :> the same words that would have come out of his mouth with just about the same inflection.
so. We are going forward.The love of others bouys us up and over the rocks.Thank you Nory for letting folks know.They have been a comfort to me to read their words here and I have read every one.My sister is moving into the house tonight and she and her son will live with us.Maybe a year maybe forever.If we can’t have a mommy and a daddy, two (German) mommies will do just fine. :>
so love and laughter prevails and sometimes tears flow.
But,we are not afraid.
Tamara and Family
Tamara, you are truely an inspiration. You are handling this tragedy with grace and dignity. May God bless you and your family.
OK, Tamara, that did me in 
You and your family will continue to be in my prayers. I am SO glad your sister will be with you. It really is after all of the people go home & back to their lives, that it hits hardest.
And sometimes the kindness comes from the strangest places.
Over 35 years ago when my daddy died, my mom was parked loading groceries, into her car, and then needed to move. Another car was blocking hers. She asked if the man would move his car, so she could get past. He responded that there was enough room. She simply stated that her husband had just passed away the day before, and she was worried about her judgement. He literally jumped into his car to move it for us. I still remember that to this day.
I was going to say God bless you, but it’s obvious you have that taken care of so I will just say carry on.
The memories will never fade nor will they leave your mind and heart. Having your sister there is truly a terrific thing. They say it’s how we handle every situation that defines our character. Tamara, you have defined who each of us should be. God’s angels will watch over you and your family as they always have. I think of you alot. Many many hugs. Bethe
You and your family are extraordinary. Continued good thoughts and prayers.
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Tamara, you are truely an inspiration. You are handling this tragedy with grace and dignity. May God bless you and your family.[/QUOTE]
YES…
Tamara, I have been following your posts here and on FB. My prayers are with you. I told my mother about your loss and her prayers are with you.
It has been almost 2 years since my mother and I had to make the purchase you just did yesterday-sharing your story brought back bittersweet memories.
May God continue to bless your family and give you strength.
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I was going to say God bless you, but it’s obvious you have that taken care of so I will just say carry on.[/QUOTE]
Absolutely.
You amaze me Tamara. It is so obvious that your family/friend bonds remain strong. It is clear that Himself is still holding you and your brood very very tight.
Know we are thinking of you, wishing for the comfort and love you are certainly getting, and feeling your loss with booming waves that rock the core. Which doesn’t even come close to what you and yours must feel. But if we feel it so strongly over the stretch of the internet, it’s only a testament to what you and Calvin shared. Something everyone hopes for and very few achieve. You found it, nurtured it and cultivated it as only farmers can, and my heart breaks that it was taken away.
Sending love and hugs your way. With my very whole heart.
I am so sorry for your loss Tamara. You are so strong.
I feel a bit awkward posting in this thread, not really having had much contact on te board with you, Tamara, and not knowing you at all IRL. But I have read through the comments and followed the story to FB to understand your loss. I’ve found myself thinking about you and how overwhelming these past few days events must be for you.
Please accept my sincerest condolence to you and your family. I will be holding you in my thoughts and wishing you the best. May God grant you strength and wisdom to confront the days ahead of you.
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so love and laughter prevails and sometimes tears flow. But,we are not afraid.[/QUOTE]
To Himself. May he live forever in your hearts.
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I was going to say God bless you, but it’s obvious you have that taken care of so I will just say carry on.[/QUOTE]
Well said, Laurie.
Tamara, you are magnificent. We know you’ll be fine. We’re just so sorry this ordeal was laid ar your feet. Peace to you and yours.
Himself must be doing his very best to give you peace and all the joy this earthly place can muster. Yes, I do believe he is.
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Friends.
We will celebrate his life on Thursday Aug 23 from 6-8 at Schuberts Funeral Home in Wartburg. We will have the funeral service the same night following. And we will bury him privately here on his land at a later date. In lieu of large flower masses, we would like to let people know that we will be establishing two funds for his memory to be announced probably on Tuesday.Thank you all again for your kindness to us,the extended family and our farm workers who were also his friends and family.
Tamara and Family[/QUOTE]
I’m not at all surprised that you are doing something for others to celebrate his life.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Your kids have been on my mind since I heard. I know they are surrounded by love and support and will cope as well as is possible. Take care, and please know that countless people in our area are pulling for, thinking of, and praying for you and yours.
