Locker neighhbor won't get rid of her cookies...

[enjoytheride]

@kwpn_01

I agree that it is difficult to interpret the situation fully as we are conversing in a forum and without actual tone of voice. I can assure everyone that no bullying, harassment, over-stepping or “bossing around” occurred. I truly do like to evaluate the appropriateness of every situation and feel like what I pursued was not out of bounds. I appreciate everyone’s advice and input in this thread!

Final update: locker neighbor has kept the treats away. There was no need to purchase a tin as she beat me to it. She actually approached me the other day and thanked me as the mice situation has improved. They’re still lurking around as expected, but thankfully not being as “trashy” as they once were. I still have my 3 mouse traps loaded as well as all crevices stuffed with steel wool.

NO poison was ever considered but I appreciate the concern.

I agree that “leaving it to management” would have been the easiest and least confrontational thing to do, however, it was attempted with no result. This is when I, and fellow boarders, took it upon ourselves to attempt to fix the issue. We were successful, and hopefully no feelings, ego or pride were injured.

I was once too, a young, hard-working teen that couldn’t afford luxuries like my own horse or saddle. Experiencing this, I did my absolute best to respect other people’s things and wishes (especially if it was as easy as keeping treats away from places that were accessible to the mice). That does NOT excuse locker neighbor’s behavior, attitude or retaliation in this matter. For those of you who were acting in her defense: it was noted, but likely ignored.

Thanks again for everyone’s input and best wishes!

In your first post you laid out your disgust for a child

“We have a leaser at our barn, who is known for her attitude and immature way of dealing with conflict. She’s essentially impossible to deal with and I do my absolute best to avoid her at all costs (the barn is my happy place, not the place of confrontation). In all honesty, she makes me want to throw away any sense of professionalism I have and throw a tantrum right in her face.”

First you said that she took your advice (after you texted a child for some reason), now you’re saying that she has bad behavior, attitude, and retaliation, yet anyone who defends her on this BB is being ignored, and you’ve had several tantrums when someone didn’t pat you on the back for your behavior. Someone’s acting like a child and it isn’t the lockermate.

Just because she’s a teenager and leasing a horse (as opposed to a real owner) doesn’t give you the right to act in this manner.

If you’re experiencing this much disgust and angst over a teenager maybe this isn’t the barn for you.

[kwpn_01]

@enjoytheride

In your first post you laid out your disgust for a child

“We have a leaser at our barn, who is known for her attitude and immature way of dealing with conflict. She’s essentially impossible to deal with and I do my absolute best to avoid her at all costs (the barn is my happy place, not the place of confrontation). In all honesty, she makes me want to throw away any sense of professionalism I have and throw a tantrum right in her face.”

First you said that she took your advice (after you texted a child for some reason), now you’re saying that she has bad behavior, attitude, and retaliation, yet anyone who defends her on this BB is being ignored, and you’ve had several tantrums when someone didn’t pat you on the back for your behavior. Someone’s acting like a child and it isn’t the lockermate.

Just because she’s a teenager and leasing a horse (as opposed to a real owner) doesn’t give you the right to act in this manner.

If you’re experiencing this much disgust and angst over a teenager maybe this isn’t the barn for you.

To be quite frank, she isn’t a child. She is 19 years old approaching 20 years old, and even so, I wouldn’t be excusing this type of attitude / behavior in a lesser mature teen. She is difficult to communicate with, work with and downright approach. I’m not entirely sure why texting would seem inappropriate to you?

It was such attitude that generated this thread in the first place as I wasn’t entirely sure how to cope. I’m not acting in any particular manner because she leases and not owns, I agree that was a small detail that wasn’t exactly relevant. Again though, you are free to have and communicate your own opinions, but grouping this response with the rest of them that have added zero value to this thread. I’d also be curious to hear your definition of a tantrum.

As stated in previous posts, I don’t expect everyone or anyone to understand the situation fully as you are not a client at the barn that experiences the interactions and personalities of those mentioned. As also stated previously, this issue wasn’t enough to justify moving barns as options are limited in my area.

[Twisting]

I didn’t read the initial post as disgust for the other individual, and I have no idea why some posters are jumping to that conclusion. I did read it as you not being fond of her, and being frustrated when dealing with her, but you hardly came across a some sort of Disney Villain. You did refer to her as a teen, so I can see why folks assumed she was still in the child category. I also though your posts clarifying were hardly venturing into “tantrum” territory.

I wouldn’t stress it OP, people read into things based on their own personal life experiences. I mean honestly, you kept it professional when interacting with her, if a person can’t vent a little on an anonymous bulletin board what is the internet coming too?