“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying good-bye so hard:”
Winnie-the-Pooh
Hugs. Losing the good ones is so hard.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s never easy and even though we know we did the best thing for them, it still hurts.
If you think it would help, foster for a humane society. If it would make the loss too painful just be kind to yourself and grieve. There’s no right or wrong answer.
((((Hugs))))
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I’m sorry for your loss, I still look for my kitties I lost two years ago. They were a permanent fixture on my bed at night for about 18 years. Hang in there.
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OP, it really is tough, isn’t it? We all share a little piece of the pain. We’ve been there too.
Gently, I suggest you go to Better Help or Psychology Today’s great website to find a grief therapist. This doesn’t have to be an endless commitment to therapy - truly, even a few sessions can really work wonders and help you process the blanket of grief.
Better Help is just one of the new online-based therapy platforms; there are others as well.
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Deepest condolences.
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It’s so hard to lose such a great friend. I hope this night brings you some rest. I’m so sorry for your loss. At the same time I’m happy you had a wonderful dog and the two of you made each other happy for so many years.
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Thank you all. It has not been a good few days. I think I might feel better and then I have to go home alone and I lose it again.
I got him at 8 weeks. This dog moved with me five times and took care of me during each move. He did such a good job. I left my hometown to change careers and moved back last year—he literally brought me home. He was so sensitive to my emotions that if I even sounded annoyed on the phone, he’d be by my side, wanting to know why I was upset. I taught him to use an indoor voice (low low barely a growl) and outdoor voice to speak. He knew his shapes and could count. He did not have an unkind bone in his body. I said a prayer to my deceased grandparents to ask if they have him. I think it was answered.
I have contacted all the reputable breeders of his breed in the states and two in Canada. I have spoken with a whole bunch. None have litters right now but a bunch will in the spring-summer. I was offered a year-old dog by one breeder but she’s across the country and wanted a ridiculous amount of money and was really pushy—I declined. The boy is beautiful, but I don’t think he’s my dog. I’m okay with traveling if need be to get a puppy, so I think I will find one in 4-6 months.
My horse helps, but he can’t snuggle with me at night.
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would a kitten help you while you wait?
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You know that’s a good question but I’m not good with cats. I have only liked very few and I very much have dog energy—dogs immediately like me but cats don’t because I tend to want to pet them like I would a dog. And you can’t do that. Even the horse is a large dog. I think there is some labrador retriever DNA mixed into the equine code.
I’ve thought about fostering a dog, but I’m renting and I want to keep my getting a puppy on the down low bc my landlord said he has no issues with a dog but isn’t a fan of puppies. He’s never around so I’ll take the risk with a puppy. But if you rent, the rescue agencies want to talk to landlords before allowing fosters and I don’t want to call attention to that kind of thing.
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Whereabouts are you located, roughly? Someone here may have connections.
May I ask what breed your sweet boy was?
Sounds insane, but get a stuffed animal to cuddle. You pour your heart and tears on the stuffie and hug as hard as you can. I’m sorry you are feeling this pain.
Hi all,
Thank you. These posts have helped a great deal. I miss my boy. I realize that I behave in so many ways expecting him to be with me. I hate going to bed. I get anxious when I am upstairs because that meant he was downstairs alone.
However, a puppy found me. A breeder on the other side of the country called me back (after originally telling me that all her pups were spoken for), because she had reservations about sending one to the family he was promised to. He is beautiful and sweet and smart but has a few minor health issues (all will resolve) and the family has a bunch of young kids whereas I am experienced with the breed and work from home. In talking with the breeder, I mentioned that I had a name in mind for him—turns out that particular name was the same name the original family was going to call him. I am flying this weekend to scoop him up and bring him home. He won’t replace my boy, but I think he’s special already.
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I am so glad. A puppy will help I am sure. He won’t replace the one you lost, but he will find a way into your heart.
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That’s great! We are, of course, going to need lots of photos when he arrives. 
