Where I live, small properties are the norm. I live in a very farm friendly town, but with lots of new development and the cost of real estate, the number of small (1.5-3AC) farms outnumber the remaining big farms. Even where I grew up 45 minutes away, drylot paddocks & riding rings were the norm, grass turnout was not.
I’ve been building my place from scratch- house was good but was completely tucked in the woods. I went for it because the land is level and dry, and even considering the costs to make it a little farmette it was less than the existing horse properties I was getting into bidding wars on. I have just shy of 2 very useable acres. Good layout, ideal drainage, just works really well. 6 out of 10 houses closest to me are the same size lot also with little farmettes. Issues with horse smell and bad neighbors isn’t a concern with close quarters, though we do have lots of conservation land surrounding us and everyone is pretty meticulous about their setup and cleaning/maintenance.
For me, I needed to buy a house and for my commute to work and budget, the house I got fit the bill and also works out that I can keep my horses at too. Thee barn where I still have 1 and used to have all of my horses, is just 15 minutes away so not an issue if I needed to move the horses there while on vacation, or have someone come look after them while I’m away. There’s also no issues in my area with disposing of manure for free, and for having consistent hay supplies year round.
What I thought i wanted was 10 acres of pasture and horses living out year round with hay in the winter. What I got is a property that can fit a nice riding area, a few drylot paddocks that give the horses room to move 24/7 with hay, plenty of vehicle & trailer parking, and will have a couple little grass paddocks for seasonal partial day turnout. I also have a buffer of lawn around the house that is horse-free, so while it’s a small place there are distinct “hobby farm” and “normal person living” areas. If I did not have a riding ring, I would have an area of more grass for seasonal partial day turnout. Having a small hobby barn setup is much easier to maintain then 10 acres would have been (now with what I have, I can’t imagine having a bigger place with the time & equipment requirements that would come with it.)
If you’re looking for a house anyway, then why not go with one abutting your barn, even if it’s small. If drylot paddocks and limited grass are OK for your horse as it is for horses & owners in a lot of places, no big deal. Just plan out all the details well.