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I do appreciate all the input, even that which suggests I’m a bad owner. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not the world’s most competent baby handler. It seems like one day she’s fine and the next she’s a holy terror. ASB, I’ve been assertive before but the lesson apparently didn’t stick. It probably doesn’t help that I haven’t had much time the past few weeks to work on manners. That’s going to change, obviously. I’ve informed her that she’s insured and if she’s too naughty I’ll kill her and get the money… unfortunately, she wasn’t too impressed.
I’m a little paranoid about getting hurt after a long period of recovering from various horse injuries, so when she acts up I tend to run for cover when I know I should be beating her. I always worry that she’ll respond to a whack with a well-aimed kick. But then again, yesterday she didn’t try to kick when I hit her, so maybe not.
ETA: Is it safe to use a chain on a foal? I haven’t because I didn’t want to cause any actual harm. [/QUOTE]
amastrike, please take my comments from the place they come from: genuine concern. Ok? I am worried about you. In fact, my dread has been steadily mounting ever since you first posted about her “cheekiness” way back when she was (few weeks? one month?) old. At first it was all “haha, omg she’s a pistol”… and your posts have been getting more and more worriesome. I am seriously envisioning you leading her out of the barn one of these days, and suddenly she drops/twists her neck away from you, the leadrope is around her shoulder/side so you have lost leverage, she starts to hump and all of a sudden you’re on the ground, unconscious from a kick to the chin/face.
If my posts sound mean/harsh, it’s because i am getting a major sense of foreboding from your posts, like a crescendo of slowly building scary music in a horror flick, and I am WORRIED about you. That’s all.
And no, rare is the youngster that will fight back if you “put the fear of god” into them. But that doesn’t mean just a quiet “thwack” with the whip - that means a thwack, a LOUD bellow/scream and waving arms. You don’t want her to “grudgingly” accept your authority cuz she happens to be in the mood to back down that day - you want her to go “OMG, mom is really scary, crap that was a mistake i won’t do that again”, and you need to SEE that in her facial/body expression.
Ok? And like Kyzteke said, please don’t be afraid to ask for some help.
I’m sorry if i made you feel like a bad owner. It just drives me nuts when people downplay their horse’s naughty behaviours (which you were sorta doing way back when she was tiny, cute fuzzy baby). Same goes for people who talk about their broodmares like “ahh, she’s a crusty old bat that likes to turn her butt to me at feeding time, but she makes nice babies so i LURV her”… grrr… that drives me BATTY. :lol: