your reasons are very much understandable but not applicable. i really want to know why she was doing what she was doing but her, as you said, sticky feet started right away, not after she would have had time to become sore from a saddle issue. also my saddle isnt even 2 years old and (thankfully) fits her just about perfectly. i do both english and western but i definitly have problems riding too western during english not the other way around!
with the whole make the stopping bad thing, i guess thats kind of what i did. i always do the exact same warm up with her and if she stops she does a few extra small trotting circles that are smaller that our normal ones for warming up ( i guess i made them smaller so she could she that it was extra work) then we pick up right where we left off. i didn’t realize how much that would have been a part of it!
sorry about quoting the whole thing i dont know how to quote just a part:sigh:
You seem to have a good way of going about improving your horse. I have two more thoughts and promise to be brief. First, when she stops you do a few extra small trotting circles --can you make that even more uncomfortable or more of a consequence? With my horse a few trotted circles wouldn’t put a dent in his misbehavior, but nose tilted in, brisk trotted circles with annoying kicking make him realize that the consequence isn’t worth the result. When he did try to buck (or even did buck), the trainer said, “Get after him! Bring his head around and move his FEET!” It is not a gentle 10 m circle at that point, but rather a stern reprimand that is designed to be unpleasant for the horse. And it is repeated immediately if there’s any hint of resistance (my horse telegraphs his buck by pinning his ears, shaking his head, and then dropping his nose --I instigate the harsh response at the first sign of head-shake and continue it until the ears go neutral). The trotted 10 meter circles for warm up are more relaxed and gentler --unless he threatens bucking, then it’s discipline time --now --be aware that THIS WORKS FOR ME and this horse. By buck I don’t mean squealing heels up head down bronco time --he drops his nose and does a cow-hop. But to me (old lady) that is not acceptable. He has never escalated after reprimand, but rather capitulates and gives a “ok you’re the boss” sigh and goes to work. At no time has he bucked after the first 10 min of riding --it’s kind of a test (the trainer thinks) to see if he can get out of working. And clearly, at some point in his past, it worked or he wouldn’t keep doing it --although he’s pretty much quit at this point. Consistently only getting MORE work instead of less when he threatened to buck has changed his way of thinking.
Secondly (and being brief hasn’t worked out well yet) --see if you can find a trainer --I just can’t tell you how wonderful it feels to understand WHY your horse is doing what it’s doing and have a solid plan to correct the behavior. I really thought it was personal --that my new horse “didn’t like me.” The trainer told me clearly, it does not matter --just like a child who (as a toddler) shouts at his mother, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her --he’s just trying to see what he can get away with and what the result will be --if the result is he gets candy --he keeps shouting. If he gets uncomfortable (mother ignores him or turns her back) he stops and tries something else. Eventually he figures out what works and uses that to get what he wants. My horse wants to be comfortable. Every time he does what’s “right” I leave him alone --sit quietly, don’t kick, don’t move my hands. Only when he’s not doing what’s right do I make him uncomfortable. But YOU seem to know all that (as I said, you seem to be doing well with your horse).
Last --my old, solid horse wouldn’t load after loading every time I asked him for over 10 years. I missed a foxhunt. I called the trainer who came over the next day. The horse loaded immediately. And always has since (just as he always had before). I asked the trainer, “Why wouldn’t he load?” The trainer said, “That’s an easy answer. He’s a horse.” The point was --we may never know what causes a behavior. We do our best to find out, but then when we can’t, we simply work to correct the behavior. It’s great to always know the cause --but maybe not possible.