Thank you all for your posted.
You all have reminded me of what I saw in NM the times I have been there, and reminded me to take seriously the experience of my friend who currently lives in Ramah: This is not the place to go if you want horse infrastructure.
That, plus really noticing the support for Horsing that’s here in Aiken, not just taking it for granted, has helped me be honest with myself. I have lived in some wealthy (but not necessarily horse-centric markets like the SF Bay Area), some pretty horse-centric spots (also with wealth that made it untouchable by me except as a visitor: Bedford NY, and some less wealthy, but good-ish horse places, (Ithaca NY with Cornell there) and some mediocre** places (Corvallis, OR, post-2008 recession). The mediocre places compared to the wealthier, educated and then genuinely horse-centric places are what gave me PTSD about living in areas without the infrastructure that let’s me do right by my horses. Until I relax about that, I think I’d just be signing up for some suffering.
Heck, I moved to Aiken in order to be able to care for them they way I think horses ought to be cared for, given the limited amount of money I have. I can’t afford to live by a major city that offers high culture and do right by horses who need land and grazing in order to be happy.
In any case, I don’t think NM will check my boxes, but the reality check has been really, really helpful. And I’m sorry that NM can’t work because I think the state is beautiful, at least in the Northern parts I have seen.