British Eventing permits only two strikes at a fence. The rules are enforced. More than two strikes, or just dislike of how/when/where a whip is used, is reported over the radio by the very professional fence judges. An offender will then be closely watched around the course by the BE officials. When back home in the box park, the offender may/will be given “a talking to” by a BE official. I’ve watched the TD in their car speeding towards the finish as a rider is reported to be over using their whip around the course. The offender may then be put onto the semi-official “watch list” if particularly rough or a repeat offender. Finally, formal sanctions may be applied, even up to a ban. The objective is educating the rider: the majority are not intending to be abusive. Often it is ignorance or habit. Learning to use leg supported when necessary by the whip, learning to change whip hand to guide the horse on a bending line, feeling when to use a judicious tap down the shoulder to get a horse more foreward is part of learning effective xc riding. Habit is so often three tap, tap, tap down the shoulder so allowing only two is actually a rather clever way to make riders aware of their actions.
My concern is children using spurs. Back in the time of dinasaurs when I started learning, a secure seat and effective leg was essential before anyone put on spurs. Today, every child on social media knows what brands the leading influencers are wearing, how their heroes are dressed and they wish to wear the same. All riders wear spurs, obvs. Abuse of spurs, IMO, is worse than abuse of the whip. A nagging, insecure lower leg means the spur is constantly digging into the side of the horse with consequences including permanent damage. Leaving a patch of longer hair to avoid “spur rubs” is not necessarily a good thing. The sight of a child hooning around xc with spurs digging and whip flailing because they lack the physical strength and/or the education to use any leg never engenders a warm fuzzy feeling inside me.