Agreed. I grew up in Pony Club, and at the time we were required to be self-sufficient … the “coach” could only interact with us in warmup and on the course walk, and our parents could only interact with us away from the stables during lunch breaks and such. Otherwise we were on our own (aside from our fellow pony club kids) to care for our horses, handle our nerves, get ready to ride, etc. Nobody got practice rounds over the competition fences, and the trainer couldn’t get on and school the horse. It was expected that you rode a suitable horse that you could handle on your own, even if it wasn’t the fanciest or best looking thing in the world. Sometimes we got eliminated or did badly … but each team had a drop score so it gave you all the more reason to cheer your friends on. I’ve heard pony club is a lot different these days so I don’t know if it’s all still true, but 20 years ago it was.
I miss that kind of mentality. I’m glad I got to experience it, because now I have no problem going to competitions without a trainer, and it makes me prioritize having a horse that I can ride without the trainer having to repeatedly tune him up for me. I have a long-standing relationship with my trainer and she’s awesome, but I’m not “in a program” and I don’t need to be. I feel sorry for people who never got to experience riding without being “in a program.”