You just described what my life used to be. We are in opposite roles though as I was in the horse industry straight out of college and left.
I had up to 4 horses at home and a 40 minute commute to run an equestrian program. Salaried with benefits. I got to the point where I was incredibly unhappy in life, because I did not have one. Even though on nice sunny days where everything went well, and I thought “man, aren’t I lucky to be able to work with the animals I love and be outside in this amazing weather?” it never lasted.
I woke up and took care of the horses at home, drove 40 minutes and took care of those horses (was supposed to be teaching, paperwork, and riding, but there was plenty of horse care and stall mucking to do when we were short staffed, which was pretty much all the time, and would add time onto my day), then drove 40 minutes home to take care of more horses. Would usually eat dinner and fall asleep in the chair. I think I slept in my breeches more than my pajamas (and would be very interrupted sleep as I would wake up, say “I gotta go to bed” and drift right back off to sleep, so I always felt tired). I didn’t spend time with my personal horses besides their basic care needs, and I hated that I still could not escape horses on the weekends since I had them at home. I came to resent my horses, which was a horrible, terrible thing.
Speaking of weekends/being at home, you’re still on call. You’re never off the clock. It was a miracle if I made it through an entire weekend without a work text. Lots of 6 AM, “I can’t come in today” from employees, and now I have to drag myself out of the house and 40 minutes away in addition to the 40+ hour week I just worked. Or have to run in if a horse was acting off. Even just non-emergency texts that I simply had to answer started to get annoying. YOU ARE NEVER OFF THE CLOCK, and you will put in way more hours than you bargained for, and plenty of hours at the drop of a hat and you will be canceling all your day/weekend plans you had while you’re commuting. Do you spend holidays with your family? You will probably start missing some of those. Your husband will probably have to pick up on house and horse duties at home, unexpectedly.
Speaking of commuting, a decent chunk of my (barely making anything) pay went to gas and fast food. There’s going to be plenty of nights you leave late and don’t want to drive 45 minutes home without eating something (or maybe that’s just me… I like food, heehee). I lived paycheck to paycheck. I was in my early 20s, nonstop working (or physically/mentally exhausted from work), and no savings to show for it. My life was passing by, and I wasn’t living it.
Sure, there were good moments where I loved everything and I met SO MANY wonderful, wonderful people I luckily still talk to, but I hit a point where I was working all the time and the negative thoughts really started creeping in, but I kept thinking “it will get better. We will have a great staff one day and I can work normal hours, or I’ll get a nice pay raise and not have to financially struggle. I just have to stick with it.” One day, I realized I was dreaming and that wouldn’t be happening. I got a desk job, and it saved my life. I have set hours, and when I am not clocked in I FORGET about work (yeah, you’ll also continually stress and think about the barn when you’re not there. Sometimes the nights I wasn’t sleeping I actually was in bed staring at the ceiling thinking about the barn. It rarely ever left my mind). The stresses I deal with at my office job do not even compare to the stress of having so many living creatures depending on you, along with farm operations (seriously when I got my job and realized I could just show up and do my job and ONLY my job, that was a huge moment. No cleaning, no covering duties for other people, no building or grounds maintenance, no dealing with employees, Amazing). I still am not raking in big money, but I have the time and energy to cook and meal prep, helping my wallet and waist (and working out is now a thing!), and I can work from home, cutting drastically on gas money (oh yes, don’t forget needing to show up to work in ALL weather/road conditions when at a barn!). I have actual down time where I can be productive or invest in self care (any free time I had before I was too exhausted to do anything). And now I ride and show!!! Yes, the horses are still at home and still command some of my time every day, and that does still wear on me, but it does not even compare to what it was before.
So that was my hard truth. You may be able to handle it, plenty of people do, but that was my experience. I am not the type of person who is go-go-go all the time, so if that is something that describes you, you might be fine. Honestly you are young enough that if this is something you really want to pursue, why not? It doesn’t have to be permanent. The amount of people who see me now and knew me and then comment on it being like I’m a different person, and so much happier, helps me know leaving was the right choice for me (and I FEEL happy!).