Your post implied, at least the way I read it, that she did not have the cat euthanized at the emergency vet because she wanted the cat cremated, which would make one assume that the vet did not offer cremation. You are confirming this in your comment back to me.
That is why I commented.
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Her E vet may have offered the service.
Her choice was to delay euth.
That I don’t agree with.
What she does with ashes is her choice.
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Coming to this late, but my e-vet offered (and I accepted) to cremate my dog for me. I must admit I have 3 dogs’ ashes in one of my cupboards and I’m planning on combining them and spreading them when I get home from my latest trip. It’s been hard; we lost 2 within a week of each other (one to cushings the other to suspected heart failure) and when we just had the last dog from our pack put down I finally felt ready to do something with them.
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My last old cat was put down a day later than she could have been. I wasn’t ready.
There was a collection of dead cats & dogs on the bookshelves in parents’ house for years. While I was at boot camp, on a call home Mom asked me if I had Pepper with me. No, why would I bring the dead dog with me? Just wondered, couldn’t find her on the shelf. Okie - Dokie.
When Dad died, he was buried with the remains of 2 dogs and 3 or 4 cats. Funeral director surreptitiously put them in the bottom of the casket before the funeral Mass.
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See?
That’s the issue my friend will be facing if surviving family can’t get a funeral director willing to do this.
I won’t bring this up to her, because she can be a Heels Dug In, Hill to Die On type 
I once helped another friend bury his BioDad’s ashes in the plot BioMom wanted them in.
He was adopted, but had met both as an adult & they had actually married.
We told cemetary we were planting a tree on the grave, then put the ashes (& one of Dad’s cigars) in before planting the seedling tree
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It really wasn’t a big deal. The only reason it was half way on the down-low was because Dad going to the Catholic cemetery. I’m not sure of the Church’s position of cats & dogs being buried in consecrated ground; no one really wanted to ask.
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Oh my gosh, that reminds me of my grandma’s last request. She wants some of her ashes secretly sprinkled on top of her ex-husband’s grave to “get one up on him.” 
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