There is absolutely no indication that OP is a problem client, nor any indication that she has the wrong horse for her, needs but she needs help. And based on your posts over the years I have been on the forums, YOU are the one with an attitude problem.
Thank you for your feedback, a few days late.
Why someone would come to the H/J forum to ask for a not H/J trainer is beyond me.
Why someone would buy a young horse they can not handle is beyond me.
Why someone would say their horse is “a jerk” when the only jerk is the handler is beyond me.
But yes, I probably do have an attitude problem because I’m sick of rank beginners saying their horse is the problem. Check, check on that one.
QFP
Thanks BAC. I knew when I started this thread that I would get lots of unsolicited advice and opinions, and there would be a lack of reading comprehension by one or more who chose to respond. I was not wrong on any of those counts! Thankfully I got lots of replies that were thoughtful and consistent with my request, I have made a note of all of them, and I will proceed in whatever way I choose.