I don’t know how to quote people in messages yet so sorry for not directly replying, but to poltroon I do think that is a logical stance to take. I didn’t mean to sound insulting at all, I hope it didn’t come across that way! I am actually quite sensitive and anxious, I’ve just learned over time (maybe in art school…) to take criticism and recognize it as a valuable tool instead of allowing myself to fall apart over it. So what I meant to say is that individuals (and I’m particularly talking about adults) who can’t, or don’t want to use constructive criticism to drive and push themselves to get better can be difficult to teach. Holding yourself to high standards and being sensitive are definitely not bad things.
fledermaus, though of course I’m sorry to hear you struggle as well, it’s so nice to hear from someone with the same condition! Thank you so much for the sympathy and the advice. Same to the_rook and everyone else who has shared their experiences.
To update those who have generously put in their two cents, I had a brief, pleasant conversation with her at work and she seems willing to make what accommodations she can. Since the problem only really rears its head in the last 20 minutes of the lesson — when we are jumping, which is somewhat individualized anyways — she doesn’t think it will be particularly disruptive to the group dynamic. We are going to try saying strides/jump descriptions out loud before and during the course, and letting me watch the other students jump the courses first. We will see how it goes in the ring this week!
Thanks again everyone. This is a wonderful community.