[QUOTE=Nezzy;8137323]
the only reason i would give up a cat is if it was peeing in the house. will not have that. cat pee smell never comes out. ever. That said, i don’t have a cat b/c of this, and bc hubby is allergic. and i would probably not send cat to a shelter, where there are so many already. would try to rehome cat by myself, first.[/QUOTE]
Most of the time, cats pee outside of the litter box due to a physical problem or an emotional issue that can be addressed. In general, if people have some kind of pre-conceived, “I won’t live with x, y, or z thing in a cat” kind of notion, I don’t think they should get a cat.
In all honesty, my own parents are the kind that would not keep animals that they deemed imperfect. They obtained for me, and then made me give away, several animals when I was a child. This list includes: unneutered male rabbit that was spraying pee on our porch, dog #1 because she pooped in the house ONCE (and was VERY remorseful about it - it was completely our fault too), dog #2 because he had a breed-related skin condition. They also traded one of my horses and donated one to a university that sold him at auction two months later.
When I got my cat Leon as a kitten, he had a terrible infection that turned out to be chronic feline herpes virus. My mom suggested that I return him to the shelter. Thankfully, by this time I was an adult and did what I wanted to do and kept him.
I basically WILL NOT part with my animals. My horse is a very difficult sort, and people always suggest that I should “get rid of him.” NO. The answer is simply NO. I can’t and I won’t.
Writing it out like that really makes me realize that my parents are probably part of the reason this is such a sore point for me. I will say that they did keep their/my childhood elderly cat when she was in failing health. They even let her sleep in their bed her last night before they had her euthanized, despite the fact that she had lost bladder control. I do think she changed them a bit…finally. They do not have pets anymore, which is probably for the best.