wow Miichelle - that totally blows. I hope the whole thing can be quickly straightened out. Your brother is some sort of control freak.
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I’m going to have MY attorney look over all my dad’s papers because at this point I don’t believe that my brother is looking out for anyone but himself. :([/QUOTE]
Good for you. And ditto on the control freak of a brother. I hope any decent atty and especially judge find one brother’s declaration to his sister about how many pets she can own is just plain whacko. So sorry you are having to deal with this. Best wishes.
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Thanks, that helps. After the shock wore off I went and talked to my dad, who’s health isn’t good but he’s still pretty with it most days, and he confirmed that no my brother is not suppose to have control of my assets, it’s supposed to be 50/50 with no strings attached. He’s sure my brother didn’t MEAN to have it written that way and that it’s just a missunderstanding that we’ll have fixed. I’ll humor my dad about my brother because I don’t want to upset my dad but there’s no way any of this was a missunderstanding. I’m going to have MY attorney look over all my dad’s papers because at this point I don’t believe that my brother is looking out for anyone but himself. :([/QUOTE]
Yikes!! I have a friend who is a probate attorney. Definitely worth a consultation!!
Yesterday I opened a package that had a white lacy table runner thing with chickens emboridered on it…Ok- cute, and I do have chickens on my wallpaper border in my kitchen…BUT. I run a childcare /preschool out of my home. I do not own anything white on purpose, in fact I won’t own anything that kids finger prints can show up on… its not worth it to me at this stage of my life. This came from the parents of my best friend since kindergarten…we have known each other for 32 years… They renewed their vows this year for their anniversary and since they met at Disneyland they got remarried wearing cute mickey ear hats with a bride and groom theme… Guess what I got them. An engraved mickey/minnie anniversary clock that has their wedding date and vow renewal date on it… and they got me a lace chicken doily. They have always gotten me good stuff before, now…this just really throws me for a loop,lol.
My mother is the queen of weird t-shirts…
This year I got one that says “Est fatum illorum qui epimytha historiae discere cadunt iterare” (Those who fail to learn the lessons of history are doomed to repeat them). Why, I have no idea. Because I took four years of high school Latin? (And all I can translate in that anymore is “historiae” and “fatum”?)
My husband got a t-shirt with a fake trompe l’oeil tie on it, made out of piano keys. (He’s an experimental composer.) Last year he got one that says “I wine a lot” (he sells wine), and the year before, one that says “E=F(flat): Musician’s Theory of Relativity.” I got one with a bedazzled wine glass. It was better than the airbrushed horse one from the year before.
Also, my husband is about 5’10" and skinny, and all the shirts she buys him are XL.
At least we have a lot of stuff to wear around the house…
Anything from my grandmother. It’s MADDENING. She nags and nags for a list, we (sister and I) send VERY DETAILED lists (seriously, with links and everything) to the items we want.
Do you think she EVER gets us what we ask for?! Why even ask if you’re going to completely ignore our requests?
This year, for my birthday (Dec. 20th) She got me a nice plaid button up from LL Bean. Didn’t ask for it, but great! Just the type of shirt I wear to work and it was decently nice looking too.
I went to put it on and there are NO tags…no stickers…nothing to indicate that it’s new. I’m pretty sure she gave me a used shirt. :no:
I asked for a gift card to Smartpak…she told my mom she was “done buying me horse stuff.”
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I can top everyones worst Christmas gift. A few days ago my 44 year old, older brother (who I adored my entire childhood even though we have nothing in common) gave me a copy of my dad’s living trust that he had his attorney draw up and my elderly father sign. The trust states that my dad’s assets will be divided 50/50 between my brother and I when my dad passes away, sounds fair right? Here’s the catch, my brother becomes the trustee of the estate and has COMPLETE control of my assets. So essentially I get absolutely nothing. Top that off with my brother telling me (in writing) that I am required to get rid of all my pets except two small dogs or a cat and a small dog (no I am not a horder. We have a toy poodle, a chihuahua, a corgi, 2 cats, a chinchilla, and a parakeet) AND the horses because with what I make owning them is irresponsible and a bad example for my teenage daughter… Merry f-ing Christmas to me.[/QUOTE]
Wow, that’s awful! 
Hope you can get it sorted. As for the pets, I’d tell him to go and stuff himself.
Well this year I got one thing that made me shake my head in disbelief. My step-mother’s mother sent me a really pretty trinket box (westernish but that is ok), a ugly Xmas pin and a scarf. Scarf has paint horses, western saddles and cowboy boots on it.
I ride dressage and jumping. All my pictures are in an english saddle. OY.
I am keeping the trinket box for my jewerly but the scarf and pin are taking a trip.
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Well this year I got one thing that made me shake my head in disbelief. My step-mother’s mother sent me a really pretty trinket box (westernish but that is ok), a ugly Xmas pin and a scarf. Scarf has paint horses, western saddles and cowboy boots on it.
I ride dressage and jumping. All my pictures are in an english saddle. OY.
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At least it sounds like she tried. People who aren’t horse folks really do not understand a difference in riding style. 
One year my Mom got me a pair of jodfurs, a flannel shirt that matched and a pair of COWBOY boots.
I ride english, too.
Michelle-it sounds like your brother is altering documents, and it seems that another trustee needs to be appointed, as you’ve said . If he’s doing criminal acts now, just wait until he’s trustee and can embezzle from the estate.
Greed is the ugliest emotion there is.
I spent Christmas with a lady I consider my 2nd Mom. She is hard to shop for because of her expensive tastes. Her husbands son got her a fake cast iron sign with a horse shoe and really weird horse head in it. She smiled and said thanks but I could see that will never be anywhere in her house.
Her husband did great this year and bought the horse she has been riding and I made him buy this beautiful purse from Dover. Her birthday is the 26th and she got a signed print of a Voss painting that was of our local hunt club at the Thanksgiving Day hunt in 1944.
One Christmas my (now ex) boyfriend bought me very expensive diamond and emerald earrings. My ears are not pierced and I don’t wear jewelry which he knew, we’d been together 5 years at this point. Gorgeous earrings but not anything I’d ever wear.
I bought him a nice big GORGEOUS spotted blue roan TWH, since he had stated multiple times he wanted to really get into riding with me and my second horse just wasn’t big enough for him. Before I bought the horse he’d already said he wanted to get a horse of his own, he had the income to support a horse (which was true), etc. He rode the horse one time and paid zero dollars towards the support of this horse.
I left him shortly after that Christmas. In the split he took the earrings back and sold them. I had no problem with that. I sold the horse I had bought him to a friend, there was no point in keeping him since he never rode him, I never rode him and paying for full board on three horses was very draining on my bank account.
He threw an absolute fit because I didn’t give him the money from the sale of the horse, which was less than what I paid for him and less than he paid for the earrings. Never mind the fact he didn’t offer me the money from the earrings nor did I ask for it. He went friggin berserk on me screaming that I OWED him that money, the horse was HIS, I GAVE him the horse and I better give him the money or else. It didn’t occur to him that the horse had been registered in my name, the boarding contract was in my name, I paid all board, vet, and farrier care on the horse while we (I) had him. Nor did it occur to him that those earrings were mine by that logic because he gave them to me as a gift and therefore he should have given me the money from their sale (again, by his logic).
His logic is one of the reasons I left him obviously.
About a year after that I ran into him and we were catching up. He started acting like his usual snide, superior, entitled self so I told him about how my mother and I had recently bought “his” horse back for my step-dad who absolutely LOVES him. Man was he steamed. In his mind that was still “his” horse that evil me ripped him off on and nobody else should be enjoying him, especially a man in my family that he couldn’t stand. What a flippin nut-job. So glad he’s an ex.
That site has kept me way too busy this morning. Way funny stuff on there.
Ditto! :yes:
My farm sitter gave me a hideous western “saddle purse.” It is a light oil, leather purse with the top flap, being a western saddle that weighs about 5 pounds. You have to flip up the whole saddle to get inside the purse. The saddle is tooled with flowers all over it. OK, I don’t ride western. And I am really picky about purses. I can comb stores for 3 months looking for that ONE purse that I will actually spend money on and use. I like very sleek, small, contemporary styles. She told me how hard these things are to find, and how they are worth a ton of money and she combs craigslist and Ebay CONSTANTLY looking for them…so there goes my two chances to unload the thing! She will see my ad! LOL
Well, I don’t know how “fat” you are, but they do sell ordinary fleece and flannel pajamas that are really nice. They sell sizes up to XXL I believe. I have several pair of fleece pajama pants from there, and you’d never know they were from VS. They also have a pretty good line of makeup now. Even if you just use clear lip gloss or lip balm, they have good choices. They also sell atomizers for your house that you plug in - air fresheners! They have candles too.
So you should be able to find something to use up your gift card with!
I was in line to give among the Worst Xmas Presents ever…does that count? For the first time ever, our barn was going to a Big Show that was a destination as well. We were pretty excited. It would be new, Dobbinette was going well, we were giddy with anticipation that she would win something, some barnmates came along for the fun, trainer even brought along her BF. We set off in high spirits with high hopes. The first day or two at the show was good, and I bought some tasteful,cute horsey themed Xmas ornaments with little helmets, boots and saddles and the name of the show and year written on them. I was going to tie them on the trainer’s and friends’ presents for the barn party. So…that’s when it all went South. Trainer and BF quarreled the night before the Big Class, and he drove away in a huff. One friend lost a bunch of money the evening before as well. During the Big Class itself, Dobbinette uncharacteristically took spectacular exception to the salmon-colored flowers at the first oxer and dashed hopes of winning the class, or even getting around the course for that matter. The barnmates were bummed and tension was palpable. Our group all looked haunted, packed and looked ready to go home even before the show was over. We drove home, reliving the Bad Class over and over in our minds. A show gone bust. Sigh…and I unpacked those ornaments, which were winking and chorting at me. So here they sit, ungiven. Can’t even donate something like this. I’m waiting for the day when I can laugh at it. ::::insert rolly-eyed smilie here:::: Still, Dobbinette redeemed her equine self at the next show and trainer and BF smoothed it over, so all’s well.
From my SIL
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Nice tote, isn’t it? I made it for her a year ago because she has a golden doodle
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And she … added enormous horse-head hooks on it and gave it back to you?
Yup
