I’m about to be 29 and found the same struggle. I gave up my lifelong dream to ride-full time about 3 months into it post-grad (My interview is on Major League Eventing Podcast w/ ClaireCumbee where I talk about it) I find it breaks into two struggles. There’s the financial aspect. I mean I have a a great job, do part-time accounting, do social media 2-3 hours a day, and ride 2/3 client horses. Oh, and I’ve sold my used socks on the internet. If there’s a way to legally make money, I’ve done it to pay my bills. (One day, I will write a book) I look for ways to make passive income.
Then, there’s the mental and social strain. You’re juggling job, social life, trying to attend friend’s get-together, WHILE trying to convince a man you aren’t “that” into horses until you can trick them into falling in love with you.
I don’t think I would change one thing about my 20’s now; at least I’m so much more content with where and who I am now at 28, almost 29. But, I would tell myself to “own” who I was and what I wanted. That can occur in the barn or outside. I was so insecure of being “horse girl” among my friends and boys. Then, at the barn I was insecure of being the “poor” one. I had to finally realize that others opinions didn’t determine my self-worth, and I strove for what made me happy. That meant allowing some surface level friendships and toxic relationships to end. This probably affects even non-“horse-girls,” but is elevated with this hobby we have.
I also advise dry-shampoo. I can change at the barn, wash my arms in the sink, a little deodorant, flip the hair over my head with a little swoosh of the Batiste Dry Shampoo, and be ready for margs with the girls in about 15-minutes.
Cheers!