This has been a wholly depressing thread to read.
I was a horse-crazy kid from a poor family, and while I did manage to own an inexpensive horse, I never did the “show circuit”. I did 4H and paid for my horse’s board and my lessons by cleaning stalls, and later teaching lessons, at backyard barns. I thought I wanted to be a pro, and spent my high school and college years working part time in the industry, and full time for several years after, and with some good programs. And I gradually realized that to make it as a pro, you really needed a fair bit of talent, money, or bravery. Preferably all three. And I really didn’t have nearly enough of any of them.
So I re-joined the ranks of amateur riders and have a ‘real’ job to support my horse habit.
I did the show thing for a bit, boarding at a mid-level barn and DIYing as much as I could, and attaining fair success thanks to luckily stumbling onto a fantastic horse. And I had a great time but realistically, knew/know I’m never going to be able to show in FL for the season or qualify for Devon. And that really nice horse is now in her 20s and retired.
I’m lucky that I was able to get my own small farm in a great area, and so I can have my retirees, some growing up homebreds, and a project or two. I foxhunt, because it’s fun and sooooo much less expensive than horse showing. But costs are skyrocketing. Hay and grain and bedding prices are increasing every few months. Fuel for the vehicles and tractor and zero turn is more expensive. I still have my ‘real’ job to pay all the bills. I love my lifestyle and wouldn’t trade it for the world, but it’s not for the faint of heart. DH and I don’t have kids. We don’t travel or eat out much. And while I know we make decent money on paper, it’s tough to not be jealous when you’re surrounded by multi-million dollar farms where the owners have gorgeous barns and manicured pastures and full staff who do all the horse care and landscaping.
I refuse to be priced out completely and I’m determined to keep horses in my life somehow, even if it’s eventually just one. I don’t even have to show again, though I do still enjoy the occasional H/J or dressage show. I enjoy trail riding my retired show horses, or galloping with the hunt on a brisk winter morning. I love looking out of my house windows and seeing the herd grazing in the backyard, or doing night check and listening to the horses happily munching hay. I won’t spend a fortune to keep my retirees alive as long as possible, but I am happy that I can give them a safe life post-performance career, even if it’s not in a barn with chandeliers hanging from the ceiling.