Unfortunate situation that you were put into for a few seconds which is all it takes for someone nowadays to take offense at a perceived slight.
Raising your voice in an urgent situation can be taken the wrong way and in this case it was.
Practice ending all your direct phrases with a term of respect such as ‘Sir’, ‘Mam’/‘Madam’, or in this case ‘Miss’. I don’t think you can go wrong by being polite in a world that seems to have placed such niceties aside to save for special occasions.
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Bigbaaytb,
I don’t think that there is anyone with any degree of huntfield experience that would disagree with your frustration at the dangerous situation the you and your horse were put in by the Gmom and jr rider. Argh!
As far as huntfield etiquette, my understanding is that if there is concern about a rider / horse, then, as time / opportunity permits, that is to be reported to the MFH (or the leader of the hilltoppers, if the concern is within that group). The MFH / hilltoppers leader subsequently discretely talks to the person in question.
However…that is in a “perfect world”. 
So my suggestion about your feeling like “a rat fink for yelling”…cut yourself some slack…shake your head and laugh (in disbelief and relief)…and give your horse an extra treat for handling the situation so well!
WJ
Oh… I do have advice for next time!! Don’t go anywhere near JR and Grams… lol.
yeah that
When a first-time mistake is corrected instantly, the correction tends to take hold better. IMO you did that.
Things can’t always be done perfectly. You handled it afterwards. I think you did well. Just imo. 
Interesting that the jr and the gm didn’t think to mention what happened to cause you to speak loudly. Maybe they didn’t get the message… And you need to keep an wary eye out for repeat behavior…
Maybe your mare’s evil eye will turn the jr’s horse…
I think it’s really hard to ‘discuss’ anything, with anybody, in the middle of a ride. At best, the people you’re talking to are distracted. At worst, you’re being very disruptive to everyone else.
At the moment your life is flashing before your eyes, you generally only have time for a short “Look out!” or “Coming through!”, the verbal equivalent of leaning on the car horn, to alert the other rider(s) to the dangerous situation at hand. After, with the adrenaline still rushing, is reeeeally not a good time for either party to attempt rational conversation.
To me, it’s going to be a lot more useful (not to mention tactful. Unless, of course, you don’t care if you get ‘that’ reputation.) to give staff an FYI once you’re all unmounted and to also seek out the jr/GM for a brief talk. It’s not difficult to start the conversation with a “Sorry I spoke so sharply–do you realize why I did it? I was very concerned both of us could get hurt.” Also, from your various comments, it sounds like a number of things from the outing are bothering you. It might be considerably more productive to quietly seek clarification of proper etiquette from a staff member and ask if a reminder can be provided, if needed.
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You have point… Who’d have thought! I’ll use this in those crazy warmup rings, haha so I’m not labeled as a Nazi when I get on to those pony riders who seem to think they can just go underneath my warmbloods…
I think children should be put in their place, as should anyone else who exhibits childish behaviour. I’ve been ‘corrected’ in the field, and provided the person who corrected me was right, well they are in the clear in my books.
Having said that, I think it would have been more appropriate to take the JR, with or without her GMom, aside and ripped a strip of her privately, not where others could hear. Perhaps riding up along side her after the coop rather than yelling full pitch would have been the only thing I would have changed about your behaviour.
video of hunt that day!
A rider ahead of us Hemlet cammed the ride. I put her ahead of me as I didn’t want the world to watch my fat butt. LOL anyway, my horse is the black one with the big blaze. You’ll see a glimps a couple times. I’m in the brown tweed cubbing coat.
at around the 11:38 mark is the line that caused the rukus…which happened behind the rider with the cam.
I posted as another “TPH cub hunt”
thread since its really just a video of the hunt and not to be submitted as evidence. LOL…
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