All this! I have a wonderful young import (just came about a month ago) who will be for sale down the line. I told my trainer how nervous I was about giving him a bad ride at his first show. My trainer said, “First of all, you’re not going to. But secondly, even if you do, so what? We’re not trying to develop a horse that only a pro can ride. He needs to learn to handle mistakes and if he can’t do that, he’s not the right horse for us.” That took all the pressure off—kick on, sit up, let him figure it out—and the 5-year-old fresh off the plane pinned in classes of 25+, go figure.
But yes, we’ve all ridden that micro-managed horse that needs to be ridden to a precise distance. Not fun and slightly scary.