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Hi Suecoo2,
Would your friend be willing to tell us more detail? There are many different back surgeries and it makes a difference which part of the spine is damaged. It also makes a difference with age and fitness. I assume that your friend has lots of determination, it is just that his body isn’t getting the message.
For example, my DH had a cervical (neck) fusion for degenerated discs. He recovered in a matter of months with lots of P.T. He can not do all the things he did before, and he had to retrain his movements. He was able to travel and teach in an seminar or lecture hall in about 6 weeks.
He had lower discs repaired early this December. One was done with stem cells and is doing very well, no surgery.
The other exploded, and he went through 2 surgeries within a week and a bone infection. That disc required fusion. He is still a wreck. He is exhausted, trying to think clearly on meds, and frustrated that it is going so slow. He has P.T. 3 times a week, and the the P.T. thinks he is coming along quickly. He can drive and fly and teach, but it comes at a great cost. He doesn’t have the reflexes back, that takes lots of P.T. to retrain the nerves and restart the muscles. He can’t BLT; Bend, Lift, Twist. All the movements that go with a polo mallet.
If your friend can work with a P.T. who is a rider, the P.T. can develop exercises specifically for riding. There will be a lot of scar tissue that has to be released as well. Back surgery is a BIG DEAL. it takes time, lots of it, to come back. There are adaptations that we make to get to the prize of riding again, then more to develop the skills again.
I have broken my back 4 times, no surgeries. The last time was 4 years ago. I have done stem cell procedures instead and lots of consistant P.T. I have had to have a custom saddle made to support my back exactly. I am still in the process of getting enough careful flexibility to be able to sit the canter,or trot. I have different horses now, that take care of me. It is easier for me to avoid concussion and instead, 2 point or light seat. But my situation is not the same as your friend’s, I hope.
It takes courage to face the amount of work it takes and to realize that when the body gives you warning pain to heed it. Very different from the usual plow through pain mentality that we, as athletes, have been taught. If you ignore the pain with a spinal issue, the nerves that control your lower body stop working. Being paralyzed, no feeling, no control, is not where you want to be.
There are a number of threads on backs on this forum. You or your firend can P.M. any of us for support or questions. We know what it feels like, and we care.