I do have children and I know it is a challenge. A huge challenge.
But, I would start by being crystal clear with your daughter that you will not ever accept her terrorising people online or in person.
I’m sure you’ve read her words to Girl Joey by now. And just in the last day or so you have read her taunting a man because he is confined to a wheelchair. You must feel overwhelming shame when you read those words, as any mother would. Mother to mother I feel for you reading that vulgar language and sexual references and mocking a man in a wheelchair. It is almost beyond comprehension.
You communicate to your daughter that you will not accept that behaviour in your home or among your family members. You tell her how deeply humiliated you are by her words and deeds. You impress upon her that she has and continues to cast shame and infamy over your family and give her a choice to either change her ways or you cut her off. You don’t stop loving her as your daughter, but you stop paying for her idle lifestyle and stop funding her legal vendettas. Without ‘unlimited means’ she will not be able to wreak unlimited havoc in her sphere of influence.
The fact that she has no job or career, no family to care for, nothing that she does that serves anyone but herself, is probably a big contributing factor.
Proverbs 16:27 Idle hands are the devil’s workshop; idle lips are his mouthpiece, literally, “A worthless man devises mischief; and in his lips there is a scorching fire.”
I know, it is hard when we have to stand firm with our children, whether they be 4 or 40.