Eggbutt, you had the info on her current Florida living arrangements, which you interjected in this thread (it had nothing to do with this thread) and commented that she was ācontrollingā and āobsessive.ā When asked how you knew that (no one else did), you stated she had posted it in another thread.
I browse pretty widely here, but had not stumbled across that. It certainly suggested to me you were searching her posts.
I can say that I donāt follow anyone anywhere on this forum, but I do sometimes notice things people say in other threads.
In other words, having seen what someone posted elsewhere does not mean you followed them there.
For example - I know that LK has posted quite a bit in the SafeSport thread, that does not mean I followed her there. I had been reading it all along. She just made such an impression there that it was impossible to not notice that she was posting there.
Is there uncertainty in your mind as to why it was flagged?
It has been remarked on previously that itās actually pretty common on this forum for posts which are personal attacks to receive lots and lots of likes. Iāll be interested in seeing if the mods let it stand.
I was NOT the person who flagged it, but it is obvious to me why it was flagged. Same reason as it was liked over 30 times!
ah, semanticsā¦around my house I am always asked to ālet me seeā such and suchā¦and I receive eyerolls when I just wave the requested item around.
Of course law talk would not allow for such a use of term I am sure.
Strange.
I read the post being discussed that either side could like it.
I would bet that some of the likes that post got were from both sides of this discussion.
That is why I am surprised it was flagged.
Both sides could decide it is about others. It is not a personal attack at anyone specific. To be a āpersonal attackā doesnāt it need to be an attack on a specific person?
Eh, I would let it stand. Whoever was attacked (and you didnāt even mention anyoneās name!) has been attacked a thousand times before on this forum, so what difference does one more pointless attack make?
Obviously, there are plenty of us who enjoy this sort of thing! This is just exactly what gives CoTH its jolly, entertaining character!
Oh, please. It was an attack on someone specific. This game of āmaybe I wasnāt talking about youā is stupid.
Do the mods really let attack posts stand if one simply refers to āsomeoneā, when itās obvious who āsomeoneā is?
ETA. Please note that I said that the game of saying āmaybe I wasnāt talking about youā is stupid, I did not call any poster stupid.
Edited again. I reread the post, and it refers to āa certain someoneā, complete with the quotes. Are you really claiming that the poster was not referring to a particular ācertainā someone? Unbelievable.
You really like to complain about the moderation here. Geez.
I can tell you that when I first read it, I had no idea who it was talking about. That might be because (refer to my other post here) I suck at remembering names and I am too lazy to go track back and see what side of the debate that poster typically posts on.
I have complained about the moderation absolutely never. Upthread, I respectfully stated I would appreciate clarification on the rule on anonymously accusing someone of a crime, and appreciated the modsā clarification when it was offered. Other posters also appreciated the clarification.
Likewise, I thought that post violated the rule against personal attacks, and I am genuinely interested in knowing if there is a loophole in the sense that making the attack about āsomeoneā as opposed to āscreen nameā makes it acceptable, as some posters have suggested.
For the record, I have
flagged zero posts
Tagged to moderators never
PMed the moderators never
criticized the moderation never
If it turns out that an otherwise objectionable post is rendered acceptable by simply omitting the name of any poster, Iāll make a mental note of that without ācomplaining about the moderationā.
What would be the point of ācomplaining about the moderationā? The mods are the mods. For anyone who doesnāt approve of the way theyāre doing their job, the first and last option is to leave. Duh.
trying to figure out the forum rules =/= complaining about the moderation
This is a board that consists of people posting their opinions. If someone is hurt or upset over what is posted, that is their issue and no one elseās. Not everyone agrees, nor should they. We are all different.
If you perceive you are being attacked a thousand times 1) why come back, 2) you might want to consider why you are think you are being attacked, 3) you might want to try looking at things from a different perspective.
No one is forcing anyone to read what is here or forcing anyone to post.
I do not perceive I am being attacked āa thousand timesā, but I have some empathy for the person who is, as do at least a handful of other posters.
I would enjoy the forum much more if these attacks did not occur. They seem pointless to me. If it gets bad enough, I have always been aware that I can leave.