As others have mentioned, it all depends on what you want to do. Why do you want to live within a 3 hour radius of Tryon?? In NC, the three hr radius from Tryon and “closer to the ocean” and “a place with a nice restaurant scene” lands you close to me, in the Chapel Hill area/triangle area of NC. CH is a bit pricey and taxy, but if you have kids, those taxes pay for the best area schools. Kind of most places around here are getting pricey. You could look at Chatham county which has less taxes and some really fabulous horse communities (I keep my horse there). A dressage trainer moved to “my” neighborhood in Chatham about 3 years ago and built her nice barn and arena and is thriving. She trains and shows dressage (as do her students). It is about 30-60 minutes from multiple recognized shows. If you want to buy land, buy it sooner than later between Tryon and the coast because it is developing quickly. You can thank the COTH owner for purchasing and developing Tryon.
Closer to Tryon in the whole Charlotte area which is pretty diverse and has lots of “sububs” or in the city that you really might enjoy. Charlotte is a "proper"city with great food and culture.
Really, knowing what you want to do will help.