TL;DR What do you do when you have one herd bound horse that gets wound when his buddy is ridden to the point where it’s starting to negatively impact the buddy? And where the herd bound horse is clearly stressed. Ideas for how to keep the herd bound horse happy and keep the riding horse less distracted
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I have a nutty, herd bound horse (Shane). He’s been like that to some degree his entire life. It got worse after he came down with WNV and was neurological at age 7 (he is now 22). After that, his brain just sort of never worked the same. That was more than a decade ago, but just to give you a little background-- he’s not 100% normal-brained.
For the last 5 years he has been living at my farmette. The setup is an 8 stall barn that opens on each side from Dutch doors out the back of the stalls to small paddocks. The back of the barn opens to a 1 acre pasture, which in turn opens to a 6 acre pasture. During the day the horses go out in the 1 acre and 6 acre area with the gate open between. At night they go in the 1 acre pasture. They come into their stalls only to eat and stand under the fans post-hose down. This life suits Shane well, it always has.
Initially he came home with his buddy Stoney-- who he was the most attached to of any equine period. Over the years other horses came and went from the “herd,” though not that often. He never minded when other horses were ridden so long as he was in his stall and he could see Stoney across the way in Stoney’s Stall. By the time Stoney and Shane came home they were both retired. I occasionally would mess around with Stoney out of Shane’s eyesight and he would start getting frantic in his stall. I didn’t do that often, only if Stoney had a wound and needed to be cold hosed in the wash stall (Shane can hear but not see the wash stall from his stall) or something similar.
By last fall I was down to 3 retired horses at my place-- Shane, Stoney, and Somerset. No one was being ridden. Mostly they were together, although sometimes Somerset stayed in at night when Stoney and Shane were out. Shane didn’t care. I could take Somerset away any time for any reason and Shane never even batted an eye. Then I had to euthanize Stoney at age 30. Shane seemed ok as a twosome with Somerset. Then this spring I had to euthanize Somerset somewhat unexpectedly (knew the end was coming, didn’t expect it quite as soon). I frantically scrambled and borrowed a friend’s retired horse-- Chase.
Chase and Shane became great buddies. Really inseparable but without any frantic herd bound tendencies from Shane. Chase is just chill. It rubbed off on Shane. Plus Somerset was a little dominant to Shane and I think Shane was overall happier with Chase as a companion. Chase is retired, so there was no riding.
A few weeks ago I acquired a new mare, Mattie. She’s lovely. She integrated in with Shane and Chase like she’d been here her entire life. Really cool, calm, collect, gelding-like mare. With every day that passes, she and Shane become closer. Chase really could care less about her. If he has food, he’s happy. She and Shane were just standoffish buddies at first but now are little lovebirds. When I turn them out after eating they buddy up and sniff each other hear to toe. They are always together-- Chase is off in the background eating food.
Mattie is rideable. And I’d like to ride her.
The first time I rode her, I put Shane and Chase in their stalls (Shane can see Chase from his stall) and opened the top back dutch door so Shane could look out and see Mattie as I rode her in the 1 acre field. As long as I stayed on one half of the field, she was in eyesight. He was whinnying and calling and pacing in his stall-- even with hay, some grain, and my hubby standing there picking grass and feeding it to him. She was obviously distracted but well behaved.
The second “ride” I decided to experiment. I closed Shane in entirely, all doors to the barn, and gave him a mash (and Chase too). That’s a real treat. That way he couldn’t see Mattie at all. I thought “out of sight, out of mind” might be better. It was not. He did a lot more calling to her and she did a lot more calling back and was VERY distracted.
So I thought maybe he would be better if he was in a side paddock adjacent to where I was riding, where he could move around a little and be near her. Absolutely not. That was a disaster. He started frantically running and became totally unhandleable. She also came unglued and it was all I could do to stuff her in the stall for a second for my own safety. Shane remained frantic and wound up even after I let Chase and eventually Mattie out with him. It took him a solid half an hour to calm down.
It’s not practical for me to have my husband babysitting Shane every time I ride Mattie. Nor can I trust Mattie to be ridden at home as a “backyard horse” if Shane is going to come unglued and infect her this way. I don’t know if I just need to keep doing it until he gets over it. Or if I should try to distract/calm him in some way. Or if there’s some combination of setup that I’m not thinking of that you think would be more conducive to keeping everyone happy.
My fences are not set up for goats/minis/minidonks and I would quickly be minus 1 husband if I mentioned that Also I don’t think that would placate Shane. He seems to get very attached to one horse and one horse only and he’s thrown Chase aside and picked Mattie. Any ideas welcome!
Thanks for reading this TOME.