This is like saying that the leading cause of death is lack of oxygen to the brain.
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so if she had communicated to you what her intentions were, then you could have talked it out.
This is my point.
Susie isn’t a random stranger either. If that was the case, then I would be after management for sure or leaving the barn.
I’m amazed at how many of you are still arguing with her.
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right?!
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Oh, that’s just precious. Guilty people usually try to project their own sins on others.
Why would the owner have to do that when the brat had no legal right to even TOUCH the horse? She took 2 lessons 6 months ago.
One of two things will happen:
- You keep on with this mindset, and (as I said before) a judge will be schooling you on property rights, or
- It’s going to happen you, and you’ll be singing a different tune awfully quick
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And even that doesn’t clue her in on how wrong she is.
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Probably not, bc I would’ve made my point clear on my horse being touched regardless of the timeframe.
Well, you’ve now had “interactions” with everyone on this thread. You’ve not explicitly told any of us that we can’t ride your horse, clip it, pull its mane, etc. So, If someone did that, it’d be your fault for not communicating it.
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Ya’ll still think it’s cool to assume that everyone on the entire planet will have the same barn manners. I think it’s just wise to cover yourself up front before something like this happens. All that’s probably going to be told to Susie is that she doesn’t have free access to the lesson horses.
This really has nothing to do with me and how I treat people.
Yup! Exactly. Thank you for finally understanding it.
Oooh, wait a minute…
While Mellow was off a very kind lady at the barn lent me her fully established 2nd level Western Dressage Horse, for a few sessions of a course I was doing.
Seeing as she didn’t explicitly say don’t pull his mane, trim his tail, shave him bald, paint him purple, stick him on a trailer and go gallop the crap out of him on the trails!
Ah, but this isn’t how the world works, I got to borrow him, and greatly enjoy him for a few rides, after that I am back to asking permission if I want to give him a treat. Any limitations did not need to be set because for the real world the terms of a loan,rental, borrow, hire whatever, end at the end of the period…and in the case of horses, NO ONE in their sound mind would need to be told a whole list of what not to do…
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I am so glad that you came to this thread to say I was in the wrong for not telling Susie “don’t mess with my horse six months later”.
Not that Susie was wrong for taking someone’s horse six months after a one time deal (the convo, BTW, went like this: “Hey, can I borrow Dobbin for the clinic?” “Sure, you can borrow Dobbin for the clinic.”. Timeframed, time-gated, ONE TIME DEAL.) and completely changing his appearance.
You totally ignored my question about whether you’d be ok with me taking your car six months after you loaned it to me and painting it green. So I know deep down, you know Susie was wrong. 
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so shorten it and if they ask, then go into detail. not that difficult. You’d do the same thing on an actual lease contract, would you not?
It wasn’t a lesson horse. It was a privately owned boarder’s horse. Reading comprehension is an important life skill.
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Did you miss the part that I said you both were in the wrong? One for you not telling her up front and her for not asking you.
You heard her folks - anyone can come ride her horse because she did not explicitly forbid it. Waiting for you to post location so we can take you up on it.
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I must have missed it right around the part where you missed that this wasn’t a lesson horse, Susie didn’t have permission to touch this horse, Oh! And! she definitely did not have the right to change his appearance because it is not her horse.
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And you just identified the key component!
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I don’t care if the horse is a lesson horse or not. You both are responsible for the communication between you two. You’re on here venting bc of the lack of communication prior to the chick chopping the horses mane. Like any one of us is going to fix your problem.
Now you know that you absolutely can not assume that people won’t just do something with your horse. I would seriously been questioning the people that come in to that barn and them being told the rules of the barn itself. You both are at fault.
