There was no lack of communication on my behalf. Susie did not have permission to touch my horse.
If you do not recognize that, then I seriously wonder how you make it through life. I wish you the best of luck.
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This has nothing to do with me. This has everything to do with the situation you posted and how you and the offender handled it based on the information provided.
You came on here asking for opinions and you got 99.9% of people that agree with you getting mad except for .1%. Now you need to understand that not everyone is going to agree with you and I’m trying to say why and what went wrong yet I get slapped on the wrist.
I guess you just have to move through life get slapped with all the bs that people pull to really understand this. So best wishes to you and I hope you don’t deal with this in the future.
What the fruitbat are you on about….
Actual lease contract, you have a contract, it finishes, no more contract.
Someone lends you a horse for a specific event, after the event, no more contract.
I would no more tell someone NOT to pull Mellows mane, than I would tell a visitor to my house not to pee in my sink, both are unthinkable.
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That sounds like an analogy Judge Judy would use! Actually the dissenter reminds me of the kind of people that end up in Judge Judy’s courtroom - absolutely clueless about how life works.
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Yep. No point in playing pigeon chess.
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Are you being deliberately obtuse? There was no lease. There was no contract. There was no interaction within the past 6 months. There was no formal agreement. There was no informal understanding. There was no communication, nor did there need to be because there was NO relationship.
How many horses have you ever had permission to ride once or twice only? How many of those owners - 6 months after you rode their horse and apropos of nothing - have ever called, emailed, texted, or approached you in the barn to let you know not to alter the appearance of said horse, with which you haven’t interacted in 6 months?
If you don’t see how absurd that scenario is, it’s a reasonable conclusion to assume that you may be the entitled barn brat in question here. Either that or you are the reincarnation of a banned poster who simply loves to argue and troll for the fun of it. But perhaps none of us are capable of understanding such nuance…
There was a lack of communication here all right but it only goes one way: The brat should have communicated her bizarre concern about the horse’s appearance to the owner, along with her intentions to take it upon herself to give him a makeover. At that point, the owner would have had the opportunity to clearly communicate how completely inappropriate the idea is, and to clearly communicate that under no circumstances should the brat touch her horse.
But most normal people wouldn’t need to be told that. Most people learn in kindergarten not to touch things which don’t belong to them, unless they ask first.
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Off topic response that had nothing to do with the OP’s post.
How @gone_rabian has missed learning this basic behavioral rule is quite sad and rather disturbing.
I hope there are not too many people like gone_rabian that have not been taught basic manners and who don’t understand private property or common courtesy.
Yikes. The entitlement shown here is disgusting and actually quite creepy.
The easy to understand rule that you don’t touch things that don’t belong to you without asking permission from the owner, as you said, is usually made clear to most people at a very young age.
Adults who haven’t learned this lesson need to be set straight in no uncertain terms. There is no excuse for this sort of behavior. None. Zero. Zip. Nada.
There are situations where lack of communication is an issue. This is not one of them. This is a case of a person having no clue about the need to have respect for another person’s property. Apparently they had not been taught the basic boundaries that most all of us learned as very young children.
Sad and a little scary that some people seem to neglect teaching their children the basic tenets of civilized society.
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I think he / she is just bored and trolling for funsies. Nobody is that dense in real life. Some people just get a kick out of arguing and riling others up.
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I hope you’re right. 
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Can’t help but feel that poster is a reincarnation from a previously banned user of this forum.
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Add me to the list of never having heard of a correct way to cut a carrot… I just tend to put one end of the carrot near the horse and he does the rest. The only thing I have taught him is to take bites out of apples instead of trying to take the whole thing into his mouth, because once a whole apple got stuck just behind his teeth, and it was too hard for him to crush with his palate, so we had a slobbery apple-wrestle for a few minutes until I could get it out of his mouth.
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Right?
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So I need to call anyone and everyone who has ever been allowed to handle my horse, to tell them that they aren’t allowed to…today? This week? This month?
How frequently do I need to communicate what/when people are not allowed to do with my personal property?
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Well, I do agree with this 100%.
The person doing something should have communicated to the person who owned the horse (because that is where one gets permission, the horse owner has no need to communicate with people who are not supposed to be touching their horse) that they wanted to interact with the horse and give it a spa treatment. Then the owner would know to say “Oh, so sorry, but please do not give Dobbin a spa treatment, I like his mane the way I have it”.
I am sure I am talking to a wall here though, but heck, I had to try.
Just curious, @gone_rabian, can you please post us a copy of whatever sign you have on your horse’s stall so everyone might be properly communicated with? You can save the rest of guessing what we need to put on the sign to properly communicate that no one is to touch our horse without our permission.
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Now everyone here knows why some BOs put language to the tune of “do not touch/handle/feed other people’s horses/equipment” in their contracts / barn rules. There’s always that one person…
Heads up to you pros that don’t have that language, might wanna add it.
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It has occurred to me that our “expert” on [mis]communication does not seem to understand what is being clearly communicated to her in post after post after post. 
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Oh, I have another question for @gone_rabian. If a person has their horses at home, no boarders or people leasing, how do they know who in the general world they have to communicate with to tell them to not give their horses a make-over?
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Probably we need no trespassing signs lest strangers believe we are issuing open invitations to use our bathrooms.
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They would have to enter my house for that and I think even the most clueless entitled stranger would not want to do that since I have a dog that is not fond of strangers.
But is no trespassing enough? That does not include things like doing a make-over on the horse, or mowing your lawn, or… weeding your flower beds to the point of removing your annuals.
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