Boarder pulled my horse's mane

[gone_rabian]

I’m still shocked at the general consensus that you can trust that the general public won’t mess with the horses. It’s no different than when you’re walking your dog and people just think it’s ok to come up and pet it without your consent. Literally everyone should know not to mess with a strange dog, yet they’re not taught this across the world and do it anyways.

Even neighborhood kids destroying something on someone’s property bc a ball went rogue and broke someone’s window. Who’s responsible? The owner has to replace the window now and the kids that did it couldn’t be found bc they ran off before being caught.

[AMackechnie]

Now I understand why companies have to warn people that to put a plastic bag over one’s head will result in suffocation.

“But I wasn’t told,” apparently is the new mantra for people with zero common sense and no boundaries.

Edited to add since my post may be misconstrued, that I terminated a boarder’s contract for interfering with another boarder’s horse. We don’t tolerate that at this barn and I don’t spell it out for boarders because they’d better be intelligent enough to know that’s not something we do here.

[BigMama1]

@gone_rabian

It’s no different than when you’re walking your dog and people just think it’s ok to come up and pet it without your consent.

It’s a lot different. When you’re walking you dog and people approach it, you are there and can say, Please don’t touch my dog.” That’s communication!

If somebody who has no ongoing relationship with you or your dogs lets themselves into your house when you’re not there and decides to shave all the hair off your dog, at what point should you have communicated to them in advance that it’s not ok? Unless you are psychic, how could you predict such an absurd thing?

Going home to put signs on my doors and windows now advising that random people aren’t allowed to enter my home and cut my dogs hair.

[eightpondfarm]

@AMackechnie

Now I understand why companies have to warn people that to put a plastic bag over one’s head will result in suffocation.

hahahahahahaha. Good one!

[gone_rabian]

@AMackechnie

Now I understand why companies have to warn people that to put a plastic bag over one’s head will result in suffocation.

“But I wasn’t told,” apparently is the new mantra for people with zero common sense and no boundaries.

Edited to add since my post may be misconstrued, that I terminated a boarder’s contract for interfering with another boarder’s horse. We don’t tolerate that at this barn and I don’t spell it out for boarders because they’d better be intelligent enough to know that’s not something we do here.

This. 100%. Thank you so much.

[KBC]

@AMackechnie

Now I understand why companies have to warn people that to put a plastic bag over one’s head will result in suffocation.

“But I wasn’t told,” apparently is the new mantra for people with zero common sense and no boundaries.

Edited to add since my post may be misconstrued, that I terminated a boarder’s contract for interfering with another boarder’s horse. We don’t tolerate that at this barn and I don’t spell it out for boarders because they’d better be intelligent enough to know that’s not something we do here.

, now i’m wondering if you edited before or after your post was indeed misconstrued!

General question:

I have an ongoing, open request at the barn for anyone to replace Mellows fly mask if he escapes from it, or to at least alert the barn owner. Do I need to add a disclaimer that while I grant this right, I do not give permission to feed, trim, alter, him in anyway, or ride, him!

[trubandloki]

@KBC

Do I need to add a disclaimer that while I grant this right, I do not give permission to feed, trim, alter, him in anyway, or ride, him!

According to some, yes, you need an additional sign listing exactly what people are not allowed to do to Mellow.

[Casey09]

@luvmyhackney

Thank you for explaining your POV. I forgot that BO’s and people handling horses are not always the best at requiring respect and personal space. I’ve been lucky to have good ones, even if they feed candy.

I’ve known of cases where barn staff do feed all of the horses treats - primarily when turning them out, especially if they’ve been in for a while and they want to discourage racing off before the halter is off. That’s never bothered me.

[AMackechnie]

I do not agree with what you have written throughout this post, gone_rabian.

My point was that it’s patently ridiculous what people think they need to be told. The person that interfered with the original poster’s horse was completely wrong.

[AMackechnie]

I edited it after gone_rabian liked it. I felt that the point of the post was missed and editing was necessary.

[RhythmNCruise]

@gone_rabian the entire point is that Susie DIDN’T communicate anything to the OP regarding her horse. She just took it upon herself to get the horse out and pull its mane. She had absolutely no permission to do this. She SHOULD have said, “Hey, OP, can I pull Dobbin’s mane?” so that she could then be told “No, Susie. I like his mane the way it is.” But Susie saw no reason to run this by the OP at all. She just felt entitled to take another person’s horse out and alter its appearance with absolutely NO permission to do so.

That’s the entire point of the thread! Susie did wrong, but acts like she was doing the OP a favor, and the BO backed Susie up for “trying to be nice.” It’s NOT NICE to alter another person’s horse’s appearance WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION. Period.

Goodness.

[trubandloki]

Hey OP, I do hope that Susie now knows that she is not allowed to touch your horse, ever!!! The opposing side here has made it very clear that some people think they are entitled even when common sense says otherwise. So please make sure you make it VERY clear to everyone that your horse is off limits for everything.

[gone_rabian]

I don’t understand how anyone thinks that when I type “it’s miscommunication” that no one acknowledges this bc bottom line it is.

They all want me to point fingers and blame one person over the other and I refuse to do so. I’d rather just say it’s everyone’s dang fault. The owner, the other boarder, the BO for backing up the other boarder. Lawsuit possibly would fall on the BO for allowing this at the barn.

How in the world do they think that lawsuit was won several years ago for the woman that burned herself bc she didn’t expect the McDonald’s coffee to be that hot?? Bc McDonald’s didn’t explicitly have a warning label on the coffee cups. Now they have it.

[Brown_Derby]

@BigMama1

Going home to put signs on my doors and windows now advising that random people aren’t allowed to enter my home and cut my dogs hair.

And no one will think you’re nuts, at all.

We really enjoyed using your pool yesterday! No sign saying not to. Sorry about your dog–nephew left the gate open. The Amazon boxes were a nice bonus. I needed a new laptop!

[endlessclimb]

@gone_rabian

How in the world do they think that lawsuit was won several years ago for the woman that burned herself bc she didn’t expect the McDonald’s coffee to be that hot?? Bc McDonald’s didn’t explicitly have a warning label on the coffee cups. Now they have it.

Oh my god, how ignorant are you? McDonalds was serving unconsumably hot coffee that they had been warned to cool down several times by inspectors. Seriously people. Get educated before you open your suck.

https://www.caoc.org/?pg=facts

[AMackechnie]

It isn’t miscommunication. The mane puller was an idiot.

[RhythmNCruise]

So, @gone_rabian, if you go out to your barn to discover that a fellow boarder has roached your horse’s mane and cut its tail to just below the tailbone because that boarder felt entitled to giving your horse a “makeover”…you’re saying that’s YOUR fault for not communicating clearly that you didn’t want those things to happen to your horse. Right?

Do you have that on a sign, or??? How do people know not to do those things to your horse?

[gone_rabian]

My point exactly. The fact that this crap comes up should be a bell ringer.

[trubandloki]

@gone_rabian

Bc McDonald’s didn’t explicitly have a warning label on the coffee cups.

This statement just proves how much you do not know.
Do some research on this topic.

Oh, I see that @endlessclimb already covered this while I took too long to type.

[gone_rabian]

Communication would have solved this entire scenario