Maybe your horse is doing time for touching other peoples stuff lol
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yeah. he does like to frisk people for treats
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Lol ok that’s cute.
Still doesn’t make you any less wrong on all your previous assertions though, and continuing to double down on insisting you are right is just making you look foolish.
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Then again, this would explain your complete disregard of and lack of understanding of basic property laws.
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EXACTLY! Which is why the OP and everyone else on this thread is appalled at the mane-puller’s behavior. Because she shouldn’t have done it!
Of course this isn’t a perfect world, but when people DO WRONG, other people are going t point it out and talk about how wrong it was.
Why don’t you get that? You act like people are absurd for pointing out that this girl DID SOMETHING WRONG. Why??
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Did you look his address up??? How dare you!!
I actually think it’s a huge waste of time and energy to vent about stupid people doing stupid things. They going to do it anyways and continue to do it so just be aware.
You know, sometimes it’s ok to just be wrong.
You are correct that you can’t just assume people won’t do stupid things. You are incorrect to assume that this stupid thing could have been prevented with better communication from the OP.
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THIS wins the internet today.
And yet, you seem to have had plenty of time to insert yourself in a group of people commiserating with the OP to educate us all on how we should totally expect people to do shitty things to our horses and other property if we don’t expressly tell them not to. But thanks for the entertainment? and the valuable teachings on how people do shitty things so we should all just be aware. Mmm’k, then.
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All this blather about “communication” has reminded me of a young woman where I used to board. Several of us were tacking up one day when she started talking about how she was majoring in communications.
She: One of my professors was saying, like that if two people went for the same job and like one had a degree in communications and like the other had a degree in like math, that the communications major would get the job because we can like communicate.
Me: I wonder if your professor can cite the source for that statement. I happen to have degrees in math and am a hiring manager so can tell you that it would depend on the job. For the jobs at my company (Aerospace firm) we rarely interview people with degrees in communications.
A couple of months later, she left the barn. She’d gotten into giving lessons for the lesson program to defray the cost of her board and felt she wasn’t adequately compensated. She probably wasn’t but it wasn’t “like” I was going to hire her! A couple of years later, I did hire one of the “barn brats” who had gotten a degree in, wait for it, math!
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If you really believe that to be true then you’ve got some hard life lessons waiting for you at some point. It is absolutely not the norm to think that you can come help yourself to something that has been leant to you once before.
I don’t think anyone here has said that a minority of people won’t cross boundaries? Everyone knows that there are people that will do the wrong thing, that’s not in question. The bit people have taken issue with is that you tried to pass it off as being half OP’s fault as a miscommunication for not expressly setting boundaries. OP isn’t to blame for the boarder’s actions at all, not even a little bit. It is 100% on the boarder.
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Ha! How absurd!!
Maybe if she’d been taught the critical thinking skills of a math major, she’d realize how ridiculous of a statement that is.
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So if I ever let anyone use something of mine, even once, even a long time ago, I should assume they feel free to come take it and do whatever they want with it?
Where is that fruit-bat?
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Oh carp, someone asked if they could could shove Mellow out of the way, and I said they could 
I didn’t give them a list of everything that they can’t do, will it be my fault if she decides to pull his mane?
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Ya know, I’m thinking that it is best if you get it in writing. Have them sign off on it. Keep a copy so you can prove they agreed. And have it witnessed by a notary public. Just to be extra sure YOU communicated clearly. 
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So if someone comes to the barn where your “palomino with great muscles” is stabled, public or private, and decides to do you a favor by cutting his tail and roaching his mane it will be a “miscommunication”?
You are quite an outlier in your lack of understanding of what most people consider very basic boundaries.
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No Buddy there. It’s Bubba. Common mistake!
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I also work in software development and I sincerely hope you don’t communicate directly with clients.
I also hope you don’t assume you can handle someone else’s horses because you’ve chatted with them whilst they groomed their horse, or other such “interactions”.
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So when people do something wrong we should all just silently accept that people do bad things and never point out the wrongdoing? Got it. That seems like solid advice to live by.
Yikes.
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