Wow - really smart. Admitting you have a dangerous dog. I wouldn’t want to pay your insurance !
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Yup. If she’d only take the advice to watch Judge Judy for a week, her knowledge of tort law would improve drastically.
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Late to this party (and you guys have clearly been drinking for a while), but riddle me this: Why would anyone bother to pull someone else’s horse’s mane, the whole shebang (which takes time and effort), unbidden?
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I have no clue. I am guessing that OP’s horse was quite a treat to ride and a big upgrade for the brat. Brat is now coveting OP’s horse. Brat wishes she had OP’s horse. So, in her mind, wanting = having. Brat prefers a shorter mane style, so she imposes her preferences on a horse that is (WRONGLY) hers in her own little warped mind. It’s the only twisting thing I can think of, which was difficult as I tend toward logical, rational thinking.
There used to be a worker at I barn I boarded at that “adopted” boarder’s horses as her own in her mind. She was fired after certain unauthorized activities came to light.
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Also maybe showing how good of a caretaker she is, horse will become hers?
Also, the BO is in this somehow as well. Why else would the BO support the brat’s actions.
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Could be.
It does seem so.
The sad thing is that the OP was extremely generous allowing her horse to be used in the clinic so the brat (make that, the brat’s parents) wouldn’t be out the $$, and this is how the OP is repaid. Obviously, the brat has burned her bridges (make that - she nuked them.) If a similar situation came up again with a different person, I’m sure the OP wouldn’t be inclined to make a similar offer. I wouldn’t blame her.
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Brat I assume is a minor? Teens have notoriously poor impulse control and sometimes poor boundaries. It’s quite likely she watched a YouTube or Tiktok on grooming and got inspired to try it out on a real horse. At least she didn’t feed the horse a Tide Pod.
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Laugh of the day!
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The time I saw this happen, the person was young and thought it was something nice to do. It was meant as a kind gesture, just very very badly overstepping boundaries.
I’ve met a lot of people who don’t understand that they aren’t doing you a favor by riding/grooming/feeding/doing x to your horse. I had a gal pester me for months to be able to ride one of mine (that was older, happily just chilling in a pasture) and when I finally gave in, she started dictating what kind of bridle and bit I should provide her with as well as other assorted and sundry things I was to buy for her. I wasn’t hiring a trainer, I was giving in to someone who wanted a horse to ride. I saw the drama-train coming and stopped that interaction right there. I could easily see this person pulling a mane thinking it was a favor.
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Not a smart move IMHO.
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Good for you!
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Given how much I was whining and moaning in front of working student today about having to pull my mare’s mane, now I am worried she will “do me a favor” after skimming this thread. All I can say is “people are weird”. I wouldn’t touch someone else’s horse without permission (save to rescue it from hurting itself or intervening in an emergency)… but some people are 
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For those of you who didn’t bother looking, 266 Water St, Eddyville, KY 42038 is a penitentiary in KY.
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I think most people didn’t care enough to look at @gone_rabian 's game. 
When someone responds to an OP in the manner that gone rabian did, obviously without having bothered to read the thread from the beginning, I don’t take their opinion seriously.
This seems like a jokester that thinks they are clever and is used to a different crowd.
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There is a legal concept we often use to sort out responsibility that might help gone_rabian understand her/his mistaken concept.
In this scenario we have two parties: the owner and the mane puller.
It is understood that no party can possibly anticipate and address every action of every other person/entity. In this case, that translates to: owner cannot be expected to anticipate every action another party might take or contemplate taking with respect to owner’s horse.
Applying the concept of the “best-placed party” to this scenario, the party best placed to communication here is mane puller. Mane puller is the only party who can be reasonably expected to know that she intends to pull the mane of owner’s horse. Because she is best place to know her intent, she is the party we would legally hold to be UNILATERALLY responsible to communication that intention to owner and seek permission.
In a legal framework, it would be considered completely unreasonable to the point of being absurd to expect the owner to be in a constant state of awareness of the myriad possible latent actions conceivable among everyone who might come in contact with her horse at any time and to proactively communicate with those people in advance of any of those actions being taken by those countless other parties.
Thus, as a matter of law and common practice, we expect the person taking the action to be the one best placed to know about the action and communicate prior to taking the action. This is especially true for an unexpected, unprecedented, and unusual action such as changing the physical condition of someone else’s property with zero history of that action being previously taken or approved. It’s actually a very simple concept and is applied to situations vastly more complex than the present one and works a charm.
Edited to change main to mane - thx!
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Mane. Other than that, I agree 100%.
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I actually noticed that as I typed and thought, ach, I’ll correct all before I post.
Oops, not so swift there, am I? 
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All better now. I can stop grinding my teeth. 
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I feel you. It’s weird, I type things that I would never misspell while writing. Also weird that I used both main AND mane in the original. I’m going to plead excessive distraction from watching Olympic coverage. That’s a solid excuse once every 4/5 years.
But, bottom line, I hope gone_rabian can appreciate the “best placed party” concept. It is appropriate here and a very straightforward way to apportion responsibility in these situations.
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I had a similar problem. BO gave my horse veterinarian type treatment, included banamine without telling me before, would go in her stall middle of night saying she couldn’t get up(Mare just didn’t want to at that time), started saying she was going to take my mare to a vet clinic hours away as she was certain horse was dying. I had two horses boarded there while I was out of town, immediately made arrangements to bring back to my barn and a neighbor and family member staying at my home took over their care until I could come home. When mare arrived home jumped out of trailer, rolled in pasture and ran around happy to be back. Mare lived another 14 years to age 22.
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