oooooo i’d be livid. The air would turn blue with my profanity if she said that to me. Lemme at her!!!
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Exactly. The barn manager should have stood behind the OP and put the brat in her place. Suppose the barn manager had lesson horses and someone who took a lesson a year ago waltzed in and pulled one of the lesson horses’ manes or saw that it was in the stall and felt sorry for it and turned it out when it was supposed to be on stall rest? By some people’s warped logic, this is OK because they had “interactions” in the past? Uh, no.
If someone rented a car a month ago, does that give person the right to go to the car lot and wash it? And if they ended up scratching it, would it be OK because they meant to do a nice thing? Again, no.
If it is not your property, don’t mess with it.
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Geez, I never realized the onus was on me to communicate all conceivable boundaries to anyone with whom I have had “interactions”. So for the record - if I lend you my car once, it’s not ok to steal it out of my driveway to go run some errands. If I let you pet my dog, it doesn’t mean you can borrow him out of the backyard for a trip to the dog park. If you babysit my kids, please don’t assume you can pick them up from school on Friday afternoon and take them to Disney without mentioning anything to me. Oh, and if I suggest that my husband would be happy to help you run an errand, please don’t assume that I’m suggesting that you should sleep with him.
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It’s a very odd position to take, right? Makes me wonder if the poster is connected to the busybody boarder in question.
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Aside from the offending boarder overstepping boundaries, there is a whole liability issue that the barn owner should be thinking about: Suppose said horse had kicked or otherwise injured the boarder? (I once got knocked off a stepstool by my mare for pulling a bit of mane, ended up with stitches in my lip) Suppose said horse had spooked, bolted or otherwise ended up with an injury? I’m old enough to know that the possibilities are endless when horses are involved…
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Y’all, I think we found the mane-pulling boarder….
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That’s EXACTLY what I was thinking when she first posted.
It’s her first post, she posts on this thread, and she defends the erroneous person who pulled the mane? Can’t be coincidence. Or it could, but it’d be a huge one.
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Not siding with anyone. Simply saying it all goes back to miscommunication between the two.
Sincere question - Do you think that if someone lets you use something once or twice then they are required to then tell you everything you are not allowed to do with that something in the future? Or is maybe a bit of common sense allowed to come into play, where you realize that the loan was temporary and has boundaries?
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Ooof you guys.
Rule number one on the internet: Don’t feed the trolls.
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I work in software development and so the number one rule is to NEVER assume that the other person knows what you mean, so you always tell them up front what you understand/expect from that person whether it’s what the client is asking for or what you’re asking from the client. I’ve also learned that common sense doesn’t jibe with anyone anymore so I am always going to lean more towards that when things like this happen it’s the fault of both parties emotions aside. Had they communicated properly, this would never had happened.
We get it, you will never admit you might be wrong, even though the OP has made it abundantly clear that you are wrong. There was no miscommunication – oh wait, maybe you think NO communication on a subject equals miscommunication.
jibe
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Me, too! She’s the ONLY one who sided with the mane-pulling brat (“not siding with anyone” - yeah, right.) That behavior will catch up with her eventually. Maybe it’ll sink in when a judge explains it to her.
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Prepare list of all potential things that someone MIGHT do so there’s no miscommunication when lease is done, got it. Oh brother…
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There was no miscommunication – oh wait, maybe you think NO communication on a subject equals miscommunication
" Miscommunication often stems from a misalignment of explicit and implicit meaning between the sender and receiver. Some people are straightforward; others expect you to read between the lines. Phrasing your messages in an explicit manner prevents miscommunication ."
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You’re digging your heels in so deep you might just disappear.
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And you’re not willing to open your eyes to the facts. It sucks this happened to the OP, but at the end of the day this is what it is. You can’t say that this wouldn’t have happened had the offender just asked the owner if they could give the horse a makeover. Or the other way around would be the owner telling the offender up front that they didn’t want the appearance of the horse altered in anyway.
So, you and i are moms… Our daughters are friends. My daughter has a stay-over at your house and you cut her bangs. …because when i dropped her off i neglected to communicate with you to please not cut her bangs tonight?
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Usually that kind of scenario happens because the kids got ahold of a pair of scissors and decided to play makeover. As a mom, I would message you telling you what happened. Whether you chose to get angry at my kid that’s for you to decide.
not at ALL what i postulated.
you switched it up on purpose.
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