Short answer: because they DON’T WANT TO. Seriously. They have a system that works for them.
How about an analogy?
You, firsthorse, iron and fold your undies out of the wash. It takes some time, and some equipment, but having that nice smooth wrinkle free fabric is just THAT important to you. So you’re willing to spend that time, and the money for the equipment, and perhaps miss out on some other things sometimes–just so you have have that nicely ironed and folded stuff.
Your boyfriend, fhb, is perfect in every way. He treats you well, is smart and funny, and is nice to look at. There’s just one problem–he bundles up his briefs when they come out of the dryer and YOURS TOO, when he does the wash (yes, see, he’s perfect…a man who does laundry!!) and just shoves them in the drawer. The wrinkles! It’s awful. You asked him sweetly if he wouldn’t mind ironing and folding, but he said no.
What are your options? Well, you can continue to harp on fhb. Every time you see him, complain about the wrinkles. Complain to all your friends. Focus on the negative. Three guesses about what will happen–do you think that will be effective? Do you think you’ll have a boyfriend for long?
Or, you could do all the laundry (or at least your stuff) yourself. Do it to your standards. Maybe even do his! Who knows, maybe you’ll convert him to the iron and fold side of things!
Or, you could shrug and ignore it. Focus on all the wonderful, amazing things that fhb does.
Or, you could bribe him. Maybe you can bake his favorite cookies? Watch his favorite movie? Engage in his favorite…uh…activity? :lol:
Or, you can decide that you really just CAN’T be with a guy who can’t understand and appreciate the importance of ironing and folding. You dump him. Your next guy will know the Right Way to handle underwear! (But he also might not be quite so nice and funny and handsome.)
Yeah, we’re talking about two different kinds of relationships, but it’s still compromising. It’s still figuring out what’s really important to you. It’s still communicating.
Your barn has a method that works for them. Doesn’t sound like they’re going to change because you come along and make noise. If you harp on them, there’s a good chance you’ll be asked to leave, because the barn owners will realize they just don’t provide the services that you’d like. If you TRULY believe that their management of this issue is dangerous, then give your 30 days notice and board check and leave today–if they are maintaining a dangerous facility, this isn’t the only problem, and your horse needs to be somewhere else.
If this issue is THAT important to you, leave. Or offer to pay some $$ if they’ll clean regularly. Or clean it yourself. Yeah, it’s hard work–that’s one of the reasons it hasn’t been done.