Sorry to hear about your surgery OP, glad you were able to get diagnosed/treated finally.
IME female BCs are much faster to catch on and be confirmed in various skills, as well as being the most consistent working. Males tend to take a little bit longer to get things figured out and tend to be either very high drive or none at all. If you want to get a great pet, find a reputable breeder of working dogs (livestock, trials, agility, etc.) and ask them for a dog who has low/no drive. They’ll either have one (or more) available, or know someone who does. Stay away from “pet only” breeders, most of the insane, neurotic, and/or dangerous BCs I have ever met have come from people breeding for the pet market without consideration for the breed’s intended purpose and its effects on the dog’s attitude and personality.
A friend retained a male and a female pup from his bitch’s last litter to bring along so he can retire his current dogs in a couple years. Both parents have great attitudes and are successful working cattle and sheep as well as competing in trials, with generations of the same behind them. Both pups were raised together and trained in the same manner; the female will eventually replace her mother as my friend’s main working dog, the male “flunked out” and is now someone’s pet. He was one of the “no drive at all”. Of that litter (3 males, 2 females), both of the females and one of the males are starting to work stock, the other two males are now pets.
If you can manage to avoid getting a cute, fluffy puppy, you will be better off unless you have a lot of time and experience. Getting a BC at 6+ months will let you see what kind of dog you will end up with as an adult.
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BCs have very lonngg puppyhoods. Seemingly endless in fact. Long enough to contemplate dog murder in all its permutations many times.
Then one day you look around and there’s this canine genius who has it all together so tight she has time to run her life and yours too and does a damn fine job of it.
Hang in there E&J.[/QUOTE]
:lol::lol::lol: I’ve had the exact opposite experience with border collies, but labs… Every lab I’ve ever owned, dog-sat, or spent any amount of time with has tested my patience to the limit. You couldn’t pay me enough to make me want to own a lab or lab x again, but I’ll take a BC any day. In fact, just got another right before Thanksgiving:).