It happens, get over it. I had an appointment to look at a mare three hours away. The day before i was going to drive down there the seller said someone had mailed her a check sight unseen
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Um, yea…I know. 
This happened when I bought my best mare. They had someone come look at her from Hawaii…which was a long trip. Person was hung up on x-rays for a 14 year old upper level jumper and offered them 4k less than asking price. I flew out the next weekend with a check for full price and no contingencies about the vetting (since I wanted to breed her not ride her) and got the mare. I feel badly for the other buyer, but I have had it happen to me as well and just moved on and found something just as good later. Once you find something you like, you have to assess how much it is worth to you and then fork it over, or else you risk losing it when someone with a better offer (or who is more decisive about what they want) comes along.
Horses are a business…no other industry is going to keep something on hold for you just because you come to see it or ask a lot of questions about it. Even holding after you express clear purchase intent and before you fork over the money is a courtesy, imo and certainly not a requirement.
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Other than “secret Santa” threads, there are very few (if any) instances where using an alter is anything but passive aggressive.[/QUOTE]
I have no idea who is being underhandedly dissed here, and don’t really care, because as the saying goes, “money talks and BS walks”. For everything including horses.
Bottom line, you snooze, you lose.
Yeah, I had that happen to me. Well, perhaps I didn’t get as far along, but the breeder said I wasn’t the right fit, they were going to sell to a nice show home or keep the mare.
They were well within their rights, so why should I get my panties in a bunch? I appreciated the fact that they didn’t waste my time.
I do still like the mare, too. A lot! (The breeder posts on here sometimes.)
Several years ago I had a VERY nice yearling for sale. A local “buyer” had come out with her daughter to see him SIX times. Then she negotiated a lower (quite a bit lower) selling price which I agreed to because I had a temporary cash flow issue… And then she says she’s not ready to buy…
Months go by and an out of state buyer pops up. Seems really interested and asks for a video, which I send. She says she wants to see him in person.
Buyer A shows up again and wants to buy now, but I tell her that the negotiated price is no longer valid. She says, "well, if all you care about is money… "
Out of state buyer comes to see the horse and immediately puts down a deposit and after horse passes vet check, purchases at a price much closer to what I originally wanted for the horse.
This is the way it goes. If you really like a horse, don’t expect the breeder to hang on to it for you unless you put some money down.
We have the following statement in our Marketing information we send to potential buyers…“We reserve the right to refuse to sell a horse or pony to any buyer without explanation”.
