Take your pick of the above if some / all are relevant to you. Not looking for solutions, I know I’ll find a way to make it all work, or at least make trade-offs between the constraints that reality throws at us, but I’m going to whine as I do it and invite others to join!
I’m 6 months pregnant with #2. DH and I earn good money but live in a HCOL area – but it’s also where our high-paying jobs are and where our family support network live that is invaluable to have with young kiddos.
3 years ago when I had kiddo #1, horse costs were lower (~20-30%), childcare costs were lower (~20ish%), and general life costs were lower so everything felt financially manageable.
Now, we’re looking at childcare costs of kiddo #2 - which we knew were coming - but we got prices back from our local options and HOLY COW THEY ARE SO HIGH. Like 30% higher than what we paid for kiddo 1. At the same time, kiddo #1’s cost are increasing (his school keeps jacking prices up), horse costs are up, life costs are up, and all the financial modeling we did 1-2 years ago to make sure we could afford everything comfortably can just be thrown out the window.
I knew I was going to have to wrestle with the panic of figuring out a new routine to keep horse in work with 2 young children…but I naively assumed I’d be able to afford trainer rides, additional babysitting costs, etc to juggle it all. Now just getting by with the basics feels like we’re pushing our financials.
We’re in a privileged position and I should be grateful but anyone else want to join me in a selfish pity party?