I am 42 yo single lady and had a really nice first date this past Saturday with a guy a few years younger than me (37); nice good night kiss, and at end of date he said lets get together next weekend and I said OK; he said he’ll be in touch. Now he has texted me once everyday so far: “Hope You’re having good Sunday”, Happy Monday", “Hola, How are you doing?”, and again today “Hope you’re having good day”. Until today I have responded briefly wishing him a good day and maybe telling him something small like “just finished riding weather is awesome hope your able to get out and enjoy it”, or some other little brief statement about my day like a fight with a video camera that led to more electronic manual knowledge than ever needed and funny emoticon and wished him a good day too. But he never strikes up txt convo or anything. Do I keep responding? Do I not as he’s not really asking anything? Do I say more? I never understanding txting; its nice he seems to be thinking of me but just not sure what I am suppose to do in this txting world 
When in doubt, reply in like. Maybe he’s busy and only has time to check in. Never know. Just keep it light and see where it goes.
I think we need to move this to “Off Topic”
A lot of guys just aren’t very verbose. I’m doing the online dating thing and there is this nice guy I’ve been texting who texted me last night and said “You’re not very talkative.” And I kinda wanted to be like “Well, ask me questions!” I’ve asked him a ton of questions and he didn’t even bother to ask me “What about you? What’s your favorite food?” I’m beginning to think he’s a narcissist.
Sorry don’t use Off Course or Off topic very often so wasn’t sure where to put it.
Hah, I just had a similar experience! My responses were definitely more engaged in the beginning but then I just got tired of it. I think it must have started to become apparent as he finally asked me for plans after I had responded to a text with only a couple words (and I had told myself that was the last time I was going to respond at all!).
Honestly, I don’t need a text buddy; either ask me out or don’t but stop with the innocuous BS texts!
Well, at least he is the one texting YOU first. That’s a good sign!
My SO was not a big texter (he is about 50% older than I am) so at first I thought he wasn’t interested, but he finally asked if he should text me more, because the few times I would text and say ‘Hope you’re having a good afternoon!’ was the highlight of his day, and wanted to know if I’d be open to getting more texts :yes:
Next text, ask him a question and see what he responds. Does he respond? Was it a general response or something that he actually thought about (depends on the question being asked I suppose)? Does he ask a question back?
My Dh has decided that he will text me for pretty much … everything lately. I am not such a fan of texting. But we have long conversations over text now … sigh. I like talking on the phone, but clearly I am behind the times.
Speaking of that, though, I find texting to be so ambigious. I texted my trainer telling him I had dropped off a (late) check for a lesson, and I got no response at all. Now it’s weirding me out because I don’t know if he’s mad I was late paying for my lesson, is too busy to text me back, or what. Even just a thanks, or perhaps “please pay on time next time” would be ok but nothing is disconcerting. I am trying not to be paranoid about it, but it’s bothering me. So, texting people – do I text him again, do I call and ask if he got my text, or do I just call to schedule a lesson and ignore the text thing? I am admittedly socially awkward and have no idea what the right thing to do is.
If a guy wants to talk to you, he will. If he’s making you doubt how he feels,
walk away. He’s not the one.
Back in my dating days a few years ago, and I know it to be the same now as I watch my friends settle down, texting is not really a good thing for new relationships. I would suggest avoiding them and stick to phone calls and email (old school letter writing style). Text messaging leads to missed understandings in tone and sarcastic failures.
It’s a simple conversation to switch over AND you have a great excuse! Say something like, ~ I’m don’t like to text message for social conversations ~ Lets chat via phone every few evenings for ten to fifteen minutes ~just write him a lengthy three paragraph email about your day or tell him a story about yourself (like your first show horse yadda yadda).
Texting has great uses, and don’t be afraid of the other “S”…ting thing. It is something of an odd assumed among a lot of men and women. Even I am shocked when my girl friends tell me about their adventures with it. Don’t judge a guy if they talk about wanting to do it, its a trending text thing. An unusual heads up, please don’t take it wrong!
And please no text pet names…we mileneals will have to gag 
Back in my dating days a few years ago, and I know it to be the same now as I watch my friends settle down, texting is not really a good thing for new relationships. I would suggest avoiding them and stick to phone calls and email (old school letter writing style). Text messaging leads to missed understandings in tone and sarcastic failures.
It’s a simple conversation to switch over AND you have a great excuse! Say something like, ~ I’m don’t like to text message for social conversations ~ Lets chat via phone every few evenings for ten to fifteen minutes ~just write him a lengthy three paragraph email about your day or tell him a story about yourself (like your first show horse yadda yadda).
Texting has great uses, and don’t be afraid of the other “S”…ting thing. It is something of an odd assumed among a lot of men and women. Even I am shocked when my girl friends tell me about their adventures with it. Don’t judge a guy if they talk about wanting to do it, its a trending text thing. An unusual heads up, please don’t take it wrong!
And please no text pet names…we mileneals will have to gag
Maybe he doesn’t have unlimited texting on his phone? Lots of people don’t.
Texting is super, super easy and I wouldn’t give it much weight during the phase when you’re just getting to know one another and trying to build trust. I know of a guy who was text-flirting with about 5 different women on the same day. He would do exactly what the OP describes-- brief "Good morning! Have a great day! 
" In his case (NOT saying that’s true of your guy), it was totally manipulative. His attitude was “Girls love that $hit, all you have to do is text 1st thing and they’re all ga-ga”.
OP, I’d text back “I suck at texting LOL-- call me, let’s get together” And if he doesn’t, then move on. That’s not proof of anything bad about him, it’s just a clear signal your communication styles are not a good match even at this very easy, basic level. (So how will that work if/when you progress to more serious stuff?)
So far at this early stage he has indicated he wants to see you again and then followed up with daily communication. Give the man some credit.
At this stage it is probably respectful of boundaries to just check in briefly, especially since your responses as you report them don’t indicate that you want a longer conversation. When you respond to a question with a statement, but no follow up question to bring the conversation to the next exchange, it indicates that you don’t really want to have more conversation.
If you would like to text a little longer, ask follow up questions. Give him something he can answer rather than expecting him to repeatedly text into “statement walls.”
He sounds both interested and proactive, AND respectful of your boundaries and relationship-progress-timeline.
I like him already.
Throw him a bone and ask a follow up question.
Well, I’m old and cantankerous, but I would find frequent banal texting to be flattering the first day, but tedious and wishy-washy by the third day. I would be thinking, “Man up, you wimp, and pick up the phone if you have something to say. And if you don’t have anything to say, or don’t know what you want to say, don’t bug me.”
But again, I am old-school, have limited patience for texting unless it’s super-quick and direct, and think a guy should be working alittle harder than sending small-talk texts every day, especially after you already had a nice date.
However, somewhere out there, he is on a bulletin board that is telling him, “Send her little texts every day just to let her know you’re thinking of her.”
But, my standard rule is, if you don’t know what message the guy is sending, neither does he. If he wants to go out with you again, he should be able to ask you out, clearly and With A Plan.
Sounds incredibly boring.
I had a similar experience and had no patience with it.
He is interested…but it’s impossible to know to what degree. If you like him, and don’t want to waste more time with banal texts, text him one more time and ask him if he’d like to meet for coffee/tea. Have a REAL conversation and then you won’t be passively wondering where things “are”.
In my case, the stupid, short, meaningless texts were a huge turn off and I let the boring guy loose. I stopped responding.
I got him to convo a little bit on txt late Wed, and he did ask me out again; and continues to txt me daily “hope your day is going good”. Txting seems to be the norm for all the guys I date, sadly few pick up the phone.
