Deleted - decision made thank you everyone

[skydy]

@Xbittersweet

It didn’t seem rude to me. I didn’t realize that there was an issue with deleting things here. I got a lot of valid opinions that I took into serious consideration. But a lot of people seem to be misinterpreting that I am some beginner rider and my horse is hot which he is not.

We are moving to a small eventing barn for a bit and going from there

Deleting your opening post is pointless. When someone has quoted your post, it remains on the thread (I quoted your opening post so it remains here from early on.)

Unless you really want people to look at your thread, don’t “delete” it. People looking at your thread is guaranteed be the result when you “delete”. You are really calling attention to something you apparently hoped would disappear.

You asked a pertinent question and there is no reason for you to be ashamed of that.

Good luck and have fun riding and learning. Don’t let anyone keep you from enjoying your riding education. It’s work and it is serious from a safety standpoint. No matter how old you are you have to be a good student, but, you should not pay someone to teach you if you feel they are abusive .

[vxf111]

This and other people may have the same issue as the OP did, so finding a thread with advice may be helpful to others, not just the OP. When people bother to take the time you give you well meaning advice, it’s rude to delete the post asking for that advice.