Thank you again.
I can offer no advice on how to work through dental anxiety, but I do wish you luck
You did a very good job with your horse, and I can identify with your methodology. I also believe I am fair, asking fair. She is a hard balance. I sometimes wonder if I am not asking for enough or strong enough - letting her bully me. But at the same time I do know that she has legitimate baggage. She is so intelligent, am I allowing her to essentially out smart me?
You have excellent advice with regards to the sticks, lunge. That is one of the first things I do. I am able to rub her anywhere with any lunge, dressage whip, tarp, ball, feed bag, plastic bag even the flag.
It is when I use it as an aid to ask or direct something. And I always see how little it can take to get a response. And I genuinely grow bigger or stronger slowly especially at first.
And she is usually responsive. At first. It is when I ask for a little more, just a slight change that I see a difference in her demeanor. She will give me a slight change at first, and then - and she does this with things, sheās honestly like F*** you. Iām done. I am a pretty damn confident ground person and rider, and I can and will not back off when she reacts when for instance I am on the ground disengaging or untracking her feet, I stay with her, will get stronger if needed until I get the response. Then I stop.
And then, I continue like it never happened. I do nothing out of anger or frustration.
To ride is the end result of a very long journey, I enjoy the bonding and the ground work very much.
I worry about the resentment and like you said, retaliation she seems to have when I try to use an aid. And the āswitchā that seems to happen with her. She suddenly decides something with the trailer is not ok again, she tolerate me asking for something for a while then NO. And is very violent.
She reverts back to crowding, invading space, ears back, attacking whatever stimulus is - I Actually coated my stirrups in hot sauce and my paddock boots to stop her from bitting them. Even though I wasnāt using my legs, she was annoyed. I didnāt want to kick her or hit her - I have no way of asking her to go forward (which is my answer to many things). I do not use a flag because she is so violent towards it when I use it as an aid.
Donāt know if you know anything about this, I am wondering if itās due to being weaned early. She is incredibly orally fixated. Anything and everything will go into her mouth. Anything hanging outside the ring, anything on the ground, anything.
Thank you again. Sims is a very cute name.
Where are you by the way?